TW: Confused
I let my temper get out of control and scare away my partner I’m so ashamed .
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Hi @Dot022
Thanks for sharing that here. It must have been a little scary to post something, especially when you're feeling guilty about something you did. It takes courage to open up about that.
Nobody's perfect (including myself), but it's what you do to amend things that really matters. Feeling shame can be a really difficult and confusing emotion to go through, but on the other side of it, think of it as a positive guiding light in a way.
Do you have anyone to talk about this with?
Hi @Dot022
I'm really sorry that all of this has happened for you, and want to echo what the others have said about having the courage to open-up and talk about the situation. It sounds like you want to work through what you're feeling, and find new and better ways to respond to things. Relationships Australia are a really good starting point, as they can provide counselling and information about support services in your local area. Have you been able to access any legal support since the police order?
Please know that you are not alone, and we are here for you.
Hi @Dot022,
I saw your other post and responded. Here are there resources again: Lifeline, Suicide Call Back Service, SMART Recovery, Counselling Online, and ReachOut's Peer Chat service.
I know you're really struggling right now, so I've also sent you an email.
Hey @Dot022
I'm really glad you've shared that here. Admitting your own faults can be really tough and requires maturity. So thank you and good job for doing that. It's often the very first step to making things right.
I also want to make sure that your partner and yourself are safe at the moment?
Hey Dot022
Sounds like youre feeling a lot guilt over what happened. Im glad youve reached out here, it can be really hard to admit when we have reacted in an unhelpful way. Are you comfortable sharing a bit more about whats happened so our online community can help provide some additional support. When you say that you let your temper get out of hand, what did that look like? Is everyone and yourself safe right now?
Anger is a normal emotion but its often about how we express it, that is really important. I believe that you feeling ashamed is a positive, it means that your partner means alot to you and you recognise the impact it had. There are some great tips on how to manage anger better here that may be worth checking out.
Have you told anyone about what has happened like a close friend or family member? If not, what do you think is holding you back? Sometimes it can be helpful to talk with someone we dont know at all and externalise how we feel. Kids Helpline is an amazing service for that. You can chat with a counsellor anytime for free on 1800 551 800 or talk online via kidshelpline.com.au
We are also here with you.
