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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:18 PM
Why do you think it’s so common for young people to overcommit to responsibilities and commitments?
I think it's partly FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and also a need that young people seem to have pushed on them to gather experience and practical knowledge alongside theory or study. It's not just about doing a course or getting the qualification anymore, you have to have experience as well to pad out the resume.
Also to answer your question @Craycray17, for me at least it took some self-awareness to know when I was pushing myself too had and take some time out, and to not feel guilty about self-care (and associating it with 'wasting time'). As for the actual self-care, its mostly cat videos and naps and simple pleasures
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:22 PM
FOMO is such a big part of my life. I get FOMO over food I see on instagram and then spend all my time trying to find time to go to that place so i can eat that food.
Good point @safari93 about needing additional things alongside studies. Although I don't know if the average person does that, I know I did when I was in uni but I think it depends on what you're studying too and the competitiveness of it. Perhaps if you know how competitive it is you really do need to have some self-care/and a lot of awareness of your limits. For me its kind of about fulfilling this idea that i'm "young and free" and pressure from this feeling that i've been given an opportunity my parents never had so I HAVE to make the most of it, I NEED to do more. That + FOMO = a very busy ninja!
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:28 PM
I also want to say we have SO MUCH CHOICE. IT'S TOO MUCH. Sometimes I wonder if it would be easier if i was born to a farmer in a little house and he taught me how to farm and I taught my kids how to farm and we were all a big happy family living on a farm.
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:31 PM
Sorry I'm late! As I say every week mondays are flat out! I'll try and catch up
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:37 PM
Being ‘on’ and connected all the time can definitely take a lot out of us. How do you know when you’re overloading yourself with commitments?
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Losing interestsin things
- Losing motivation
- Not having any time to chill out
- Not seeing family often
- Feeling stressed
- Losing sleep
- Unable or finding it hard to eat
- Only having commitments on your mind
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:43 PM
When I make to-do lists, I always write a few self-care things on it.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:29 PM
I definitely need to start practicing JOMO. That is genius!
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:26 PM
Oh the dreaded FOMO! Did you know there's an opposite to FOMO?Fomo is:
Fear Of Missing Out.
it's opposite is:
Joy Of Missing Out
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:30 PM
I bath in JOMO!My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:10 PM
That feeling after your last exam when you're on holidays.... I cannot wait- Mark as New
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:10 PM
@Stealth_ninja exactly! Also thats an interesting analogy, but yes it does feel like that, until you run out of fires to put out and then you don't know what to do with yourself
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:09 PM
It sounds like a big job, @Ben-RO, and you do a great job too!@stonepixie how do you usually avoid burnout? And @safari93 how did you avoid burnout during the study year?
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:16 PM
Well, @Craycray17 4 of those meetings I just need to attend and do nothing else. The other 2 I am very passionate about. But I also know my warning signs when things are getting a bit too much and tend to take my foot of the pedal, so to speak.It is all about good time management and taking care of myself. Like right now, I have a few assessments due, so I'm not really doing much with another place I volunteer at.
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:19 PM
Why do you think it’s so common for young people to overcommit?
Because we want to
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:07 PM
Hello @stonepixie!! 6 meetings a month?? Thats like more than one a week right? I can math 
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:10 PM
I know, @safari93 It is bananas! Hahaha.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:14 PM
Burn out is a very real thing, I think on top of all our jobs, voluntary roles, uni, we also want to have time for friends and family. To have fun, wind down. So that adds to it too. Even if we arent always busy sometimes juggling multiple commitments on one weekend can be stressful
Which brings me to Question 2!
2. Why do you think it’s so common for young people to overcommit?
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:06 PM
Is juggling several commitments and responsibilities at once something you have to deal with? Or do you know someone that does?
Well, i moderate this forum, so that's several commitments in and of itself! Most of my workmates at ReachOut are in a similar boat, the place is always very very busy. On top of that I'm doing three Certificate IV's at the same time.
I think most of the people i know are in a similar boat. They're holding down a job and doing a bit of study. Some of them have also been dealing with some pretty decent mental illness, recovering from or learning to manage that is a very big commitment in and of itself.
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:06 PM
Wow, you guys sound like you have a busy schedule like me too. I have two jobs and a range of volunteering jobs I do whilst also trying to get past my last few exams, burn out is a thing haha- Mark as New
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:06 PM
Hey @Craycray17, thanks for joining us!!
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:04 PM
Hey everyone!! Super pumped to be joining @Stealth_ninja in facilitating tonight's session 
Is juggling several commitments and responsibilities at once something you have to deal with? Or do you know someone that does?
Omg yes, although since I've finished study for this year it feels like I've gone from 100 to 0 overnight and I'm still coming to terms with that. But I was like that for years, always had to be on the go and have something to do or work on. Plus having friends around you with similar fast-paced lives tends to reinforce that habit
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:04 PM
Btw hey @Stealth_ninja, @safari93 and @Ben-RO!- Mark as New
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:03 PM
Yes yes and yes. This topic definitely resonates with me!- Mark as New
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originally posted on 09-11-2015 8:01 PM
Happy Monday Everyone! Welcome to tonight's GR session (and my first!) where we will be talking ‘’Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say no to social commitments! @safari93 and I will facilitating the discussion around finding a balance between doing the things that matter to us and maintaining our wellbeing.
If you haven't already done so have a look at our community guidelines before you join in on the discussion. If at any point you feel you need some extra support, take a look at the emergency help resources which can be found in the top right corner of your page.
And to start off with our first question is.. (drumroll pleaseee)
- Is juggling several commitments and responsibilities at once something you have to deal with? Or do you know someone that does?
