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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:27 PM
Ahh i like your question the most @j95!
Hmm, i guess maybe my answer is to ask the other person to help you decide while letting them know what you think or part of it so maybe i'd say " i want to give this time what do you want?" but would i be better being more honest and adding "i'm not sure if we want the same thing" ?
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:31 PM
P.s if either of you guys want to ask another different question then go for it!
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:34 PM
@j95 yeah I don't think you want to micro-manage and constantly check-in because that might seem a bit odd. It seems like you can tell where its headed based on behaviour, and I don't know what your experience is, but I've found that if you don't really like someone and they start becoming closer, it makes you really uncomfortable and it's really obvious that it's not for you.
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:32 PM
Ok heres another!
Are casual things like friends with benefits or hookups a type of relationship?
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:36 PM
Are casual things like friends with benefits or hookups a type of relationship?
Yeah I think they are, they may be of a less serious form than a long term relationship but they're still a type of relationship, you are still sharing a part of yourself with somebody else and being connected with them even if its not a real strong emotional connection.
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:39 PM
That's spot on @j95! My thoughts exactly
I wonder if everyone thinks like that?
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:42 PM
I'm going to ask another q if everyone is ready?- Mark as New
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:56 PM
I assuming this in the case of a heterosexual relationship, where both people are attracted to members of the opposite sex?
I really think it should be okay, although i know a lot of people who aren't exactly comfortable with the idea. I think that the solution if a person isn't comfortable with their partner having friends of the opposite sex might be to figure out what the discomfort is coming from with the other person, rather than just saying it's not okay! I think pretty much all of the time if you think someone having friends who are of the opposite sex is not okay then the problem is you, not the persons desire for friendships.
However each relationship is up to the people in it. So if everyone is okay with the idea, and by okay with the idea i mean they feel safe to say when they're not okay with something too, then maybe it's alright to not have friends of the opposite sex? I am pretty nervous about saying that though because i know most of the time this stuff is a type of control that can happen in very unhealthy relationships.
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:57 PM
argh my post came out weird... must fix...
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 10:01 PM
It's a tricky question @j95! I think the fact that we have to think about attraction for the question to make sense makes it pretty clear that the many people who have concerns about their partners seeing members of the opposite sex are probably not worried about friendships, they've got some big time trust issues and need to sort themselves out a little!
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 10:06 PM
Great chat! Thanks everyone!- Mark as New
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 10:05 PM
Last minute!? It's after the last minute 😛
I kinda almost think we should make a thread and keep the chat going there @j95 I haven't seen much about relationships like this, so I think maybe it'd be cool to get a special discussion up to help our community think a little more. What do you reckon?
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 10:06 PM
Yeah sounds great I'm keen for it @Ben-RO- Mark as New
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 10:08 PM
Feel up to getting the ball rolling? I'll leave the GR Questions up a little longer so you can choose from them if you want!
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originally posted on 02-08-2016 8:04 AM
@Ben-RO @j95 Just seeing this now - I'm defs keen to help out 🙂 Are you feeling up to making the thread this morning? Otherwise I'd be happy to make one
You all had some awesome responses here last night btw!
No human being, however great or powerful, was ever so free as a fish
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 10:09 PM
Yeah sure, can I copy and paste them and start the thread in the morning @Ben-RO? got a lot going on so just need to deal with that first and start fresh tomorrow...- Mark as New
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:44 PM
Interesting one this one and could be the basis of clashes in some relationships...
Is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship?
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:49 PM
@Ben-RO haha that's outrageous.
Is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship?
Yeah big time. If this is making one member of a relationship upset than it may highlight a trust issue and definitely worth exploring more! What do you all think?
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:49 PM
Is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship?
This one isn't really as straight forward as I first thought... but I think it comes down to being honest with your partner and respecting them, knowing if you're friendship is getting a little more than friendy, if those ingredients are included then yes its fine But then how does this question work for those who are in a relationship with somebody of the same sex?
Am I reading into this wrong?
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originally posted on 01-08-2016 9:35 PM
Are casual things like friends with benefits or hookups a type of relationship?
I think so!
