Coming out.
Just recently I discovered that I was bi-sexual. I come from a super christian familyand background and am afraid to come out incase word gets around to my parents. I'm utterly terrified of what they would say if they found out. To put it in perspective, my dad loved axis of awesome until Jordan Raskopoulos changed gender and got stuck in a legal limbo. I was talking to him about it in the car and he said how he hated the whole band now and how the gender you're assigned with at birth is your true gender and stuff like that. Help me.
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Hey @struggler! Welcome to RO 
I'm so sorry to hear about your current situation - coming to yourself is hard enough, but knowing that you are in a bi-phobic environment can make coming out so much scarier and more stressful. Just so you know, even if you do find out about your sexuality, that doesn't mean you are obligated to tell anyone about it, up to and including your family. If it isn't safe for you to be openly bisexual around them, then it's best for your own safety to not come out to them.
That being said, because you are now realising how toxic your family environment is regarding your sexuality, developing some support networks and services around you can help with managing your anxieties and fears, as well as countering the homo/bi/transphobic views around you. We have resources on support services that you can use, including online and phone-based services, and of course you can post here on RO for support from other LGBT members on the forums (you can even intro yourself here!)
Hope this helps
@struggler Welcome to RO 🙂 Congratulations on figuring out that you're bisexual, that's super exciting and it's cool that you know that about yourself 🙂
I'm sorry to hear that you don't think your parents will react well, since their opinions on other LGBT+ issues are pretty negative. If you don't want to come out yet or don't feel safe to come out, you don't have to. It's okay not to tell people that you're bisexual if you don't feel ready to yet, and your safety is the most important thing.
If you really want to come out, you're just worried about your parents' reactions, maybe you could think about either just being out in an online setting (like if you have a tumblr account or something that your parents don't have access to). Or if you have a best friend or friends, or supportive family, that you trust, you could come out to them and let them know that you're not ready for your parents to know yet.
There's an article here that might help - http://au.reachout.com/coming-out
Hope this helps 🙂
@struggler Congratulations on coming out to your friends - I'm so glad they were supportive to you! Feel free to keep hanging out with us on RO, it'd be cool to have you around 🙂
Hey @struggler, some pretty great resources have already been posted on this thread, which I would thoroughly recommend that you check out, but I just wanted to reinforce the fact that your personal safety and security is the most important thing in this situation. You are never obligated to tell anyone anything that you don't feel comfortable talking about when it comes to your sexuality. It sounds like your parents have some very strong views on this subject and since you're in a position where you're still in school I would have to agree with @safari93 that it might be best to wait under you're in a more independant postition.
With that being said, I'm so happy that you have a group of supportive people around you to help you through this. Coming out can be a big deal, especially when the family sitaution is less than ideal, so you should be really proud of yourself for how well you're looking after yourself through this tough situation.
As @DruidChild mentioned, RO is also always here to support you if you need us 🙂
