I asked a guy out and he's gosted me
So I've been talking/messaging with this guy for 2 weeks. We meet at a church camp. And he's perfect! He's super involved in the church. He's gorgeous to look at. We have so much in common. Literally a match made in heaven.
We talked every day till like 11 and we would always say goodnight.
So I was waiting and waiting for him to ask me out as things had progressed very well. He didn't, so I did. I said "Are you busy this weekend? Would you like catch up for coffee or a movie?"
And he hasn't "seen" it but he's viewing all my stories. And we all know you can see a message from your homescreen. So we've gone from talking every day for hours to absolutely nothing! I'm not going to message him as the ball is in his court. But is there any coming back from just totally ghosting me for no reason? Like just say your not ready or your busy, something. Other than complete silence 🔕 I'm shocked as I definitely wasn't reading the wrong signals.
I also have enough confidence in myself to say I am stunning! I am a lovely person and it's his total loss.
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Hey @Bella_18
Sorry to hear that he ghosted you! It can be so annoying and very unsettling and confusing when someone you thought was building a good relationship with you suddenly cuts off communication with no explanation. I hope you're feeling ok ❤️
Also, I'm so for that self-confidence! 😆 I love it! Yes, totally his loss. I'm so happy for you that you're able to have that self-esteem and know your self-worth.
Hi @Bella_18
That really sucks to hear and ghosting someone is very rude and immature. It's great to hear that you know your self-worth and that you love yourself and are confident in who you are. That's honestly amazing and yeah, it's his loss.
That being said it does suck to lose that connection with someone who you felt close and comfortable with and I hope that you are feeling okay. But I reckon that at the end of the day you wouldn't want to be with someone who treats others with such little regard as to ghost people, so I guess you dodged a bullet too!
Yesss @Bella_18 ! I love that you know you're a lovely person and have confidence in yourself! It's annoying when someone just ghosts you out of nowhere, especially when he's still viewing all of your stories. Sounds like he may also not know what he wants so it's easier for him to avoid the situation altogether instead of trying to work out what to do next? 😕
I know it's becoming super common to just ghost someone but it's no fun being on the receiving end of it. Do you know someone who had the same experience?
Hey @Bella_18 😊
Thanks for sharing what's happening for you at the moment, I can imagine it must be quite confusing! I know a lot of people who have experienced similar situations where they've connected really well with someone and then they've stopped replying, so you're not alone. Doesn't stop it from being annoying though right! We never really know what someone else is thinking - maybe he wasn't in the right headspace to reply but was feeling ok to switch off by watching stories? However, I imagine it would be better if he was able to communicate that with you so you were aware how he was feeling. Has he responded to you since yesterday? How are you feeling about it now?
I also absolutely love your last sentence! 👏 Such a big YES to knowing your worth and how amazing you are! And like you say, if it turns out he doesn't want to meet up, it is totally his loss!
