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Cassie
CassiePosted 19-07-2012 06:20 PM

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N1ghtW1ng
N1ghtW1ngPosted 30-03-2016 11:26 PM
Did you end up putting the dogs to bed @j95? I have no idea when you posted because for some reason the time stamp on yoyr post is saying 2:02pm but are you feeling relaxed?
Have you asked anyone at your work or a counsellor or careers advisor about what to do? They might be able to offer some advice to help make the decision clearer. Doona nests are definitely awesome, do you find they help relax you? You're a great person j95 and whatever you decide to do will be the right decision. It's hard to make such big decisions, espeically since there is no one to make it for you but hopefully there are people who can help you make it. Do you have any deadlines on your decison? Depending on how you are, setting yourself a deadline if there isn't already one might help you make the decision. If you think that'd help. Even being 80% sure of your decision is enough to make it because we can't always be 100% sure of our choice.
Hopefully tomorrow things will be clearer 🙂
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:57 PM
Ah that's annoying when your little ones are being mischievous. maybe they need to be walked back to their kennel and put to bed?
I hope they quieten down soon so that you can relax
 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 11:02 PM
I'm not relaxing
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:47 PM
@j95 Doona nests are literally the best thing ever

Did you manage to get the dogs in? I hope you're feeling a bit better tomorrow.
 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:50 PM
No @Craycray17 and they're being annoying, they keep scratching at the bottom of the door to be let in and when I open they door they just back to their kennel normally I'd find that cute and funny but not tonight I am so done
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:39 PM
I'm glad, @j95, it might be just what you need to wind down for the night.
And I agree so much with @ellebelles wise words
 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:44 PM
I really don't want to have to go to work tomorrow and think about all this, I just want to stay in this doona nest for a while, a couple of days will do
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:48 PM
I don't know what's been going on in my head lately but I don't like it, so much crying so much stupid shit, I'm such an idiot
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:32 PM
Do you think the pups would mind if you brought them inside with you? I do it all the time with mine if I need a friend
 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:38 PM
@Craycray17 yeah I just got my doona and making some food, I'm going to try and get the dogs in
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:32 PM
Okay @j95, let's take a second and think of some good distraction activities that could help you get a bit more grounded, have you got any ideas?

My thoughts are jumping to: dogs, TV, games threads, something yummy to eat and getting somewhere comfy?
 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:36 PM
I understand what you mean @ElleBelle

I'm just so stuck because I feel like it's another thing add to the list of things I failed at and never finished. I could list heaps. I never follow through with things.
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:30 PM
Well, we could try and tackle one of those things; the loneliness! @j95 is there anyone home where you are? What about chilling with the dogs?
 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:31 PM
They're asleep in the kennels I built for them, it's just me home tonight @Craycray17
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:29 PM
and I don't know how to explain but I'm feeling super heightened, a bit anxious and triggered (it's the only word I can think of) because I read something I wish I hadn't and I'm literally on the verge of having a meltdown
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:25 PM
I wish somebody could choose for me @Craycray17 even though that isn't going to happen. I don't know what I need I just feel stuck right now and I'm lonely, those two don't go well together.
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:23 PM
Don't forget, @j95, that continuing doesn't mean you have to say goodbye to anything, just temporarily put it on hold.

What is something that you need from us tonight in order to feel a little more positive?
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:14 PM
I don't get much time off because I have a certain amount of work I have to do to pass my apprenticeship and go into the next year, I wish I could combine it all but I can't, I really can't. It's apprenticeship and not do all the things I want or say goodbye to a huge part of my life that I love and do other things. Maybe I should just do nothing at all.
 
 
ElleBelle
ElleBellePosted 30-03-2016 10:31 PM

I really do understand that awful guilt when you feel like you've let someone down or disappointed them, @j95. I think you feel that even more deeply because you know how it feels to be on the receiving end of that disappointment. However, I'm going to use a Godfather quote here:

 

godfather

 

Bosses understand that their employees will come and go. It's all part of being a boss. You're following your passion and trying to create a life that makes you happy. A good boss (and it sounds like you have one) will understand that from a human level, because that's what they did when they created their business.

 

It's normal to be a bit scared of change and to let those emotios out through a good cry. But I hope you can try to let go of the guilt.

 

 

 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:11 PM
and I don't know why I'm crying over this but I am
 
Craycray17
Craycray17Posted 30-03-2016 10:11 PM
Yeah I see your struggle, @j95. And there isn't an opportunity for travel in between work, like in the time off?

Who do you think you could ask at work or in your life that could provide some different perspectives for you? Is there a course counsellor you could book a session with? Sometimes it's the sort of clarity you need
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 10:10 PM
I know @ElleBelle but I feel like a massive let down, all these people have helped me get to where I am today and get this far, now I'm just saying nah cya later
 
j95
j95Posted 30-03-2016 09:56 PM
I would like it but I just don't think it's going to be possible to do everything, apprenticeships are demanding and so is everything else in my life. I'm sooo torn, I've been thinking about it and stressing about it every single day. I feel like no matter what I do, I would feel like i made the wrong choice. I need someone to just throw me somewhere and say do this. I just love what I'm doing I've invested so much into it and it's really helped shape me but what's the point in starting and not finishing, especially when everybody knows how much it's helped me and how it's set me up. I'm sort of going against their word too, everybody has been so great to me. @Craycray17
 
 
ElleBelle
ElleBellePosted 30-03-2016 10:03 PM

You haven't burnt any bridges @j95, so if it turns out not to be the right path, you can always return. Sort of like flipping back the pages in a Choose Your Own Adventure book when you get an ending you don't like 🙂

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