TW: Schoolies is killing me
Hi,
So I'm doing schoolies as my friend has an apartment up here, but its raining all week so there's nothing to do, there are no parties and I don't know other people up here, and some of the people im stuck in this apartment with kind of suck. I tried talking to some of my friends at noosa and gc but they just wanna drink and be happy and don't wanna listen to my shit.
I don't want to leave as I know i'll hold it against myself for a long time and call myself a 'pussy' and worse things, but there is just nothing to do for a week, I'm really sad and wishing i did schoolies on the gold coast instead, even with the cost, it just sucks being alone and depressed and not knowing what to do about it.
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I'm so sorry to hear that your break from school has not been going as great as you had hoped. That sounds incredibly frustrating and disappointing to not be able to have fun during your schoolies and feel like you are just stuck indoors the whole time.
It's great to hear that you took the initiative and decided to host a party and make your own fun!
I just wanted to check how everything went and how you are doing now ❤️
Hey @SlimeRancher thank you for reaching out and sharing how you're feeling about schoolies. It's not surprising that you're finding it hard to enjoy yourself when you're feeling alone and depressed and are stuck inside for the week. How are you holding up after last night?
We're also going to send you an email to check in, could you have a look at that when you get the chance?
Hey @SlimeRancher I'm really sorry to hear that your schoolies plans aren't what you'd hoped for. It can certainly be a big disappointment to feel like this is a milestone you wish to be celebrating, but you're not able to do so in the way you perhaps imagined. It also sucks that drinking has impacted you in this way, but good on you for recognising that it may not be the best idea to be drinking if it is having such a negative effect.
Could you potentially have a chat with the friend you're staying with, and let them know how you're feeling? You could always make some other plans together, something that doesn't revolve around drinking, but could help to lift your spirits and allow you to create some nice memories together? Maybe have a google of fun stuff to do when it's raining, see if there's anything that catches your eye. Even something like mini golf, laser tag, or a trampoline park, could end up being a surprising amount of fun.
I think it's normal to feel a sense of disappointment when something isn't what you'd imagined, especially for an event like schoolies. Even if it turns out to be not what you wanted, there is always time to make something new of it.
I hope you're able to find the best way forward that balances your needs with your desires. Glad you decided to share with us, and feel free to keep us posted on how your week turns out!
I'm a bit better now lol, I think seeing everyone else at the Gold Coast partying and having fun just struck a particular chord when I was being miserable, I'm staying in my room now and swimming occasionally and I'm trying to organize a party, so a bit of a turn around from how I was a few nights back, still a little melancholy and depressed but not drinking as I'm theorizing that was what made me particularly iffy. Also thx for the email.
Hi @SlimeRancher thank you so much for hopping back on to give us an update on how you’re going 😊 How many days of schoolies do you have left?
I’m glad to hear things are feeling a little better since you first posted. It makes total sense that seeing others on the Gold Coast struck a chord with you when you were feeling miserable. FOMO is a very real and distressing experience, especially when you’re already feeling down.
I’m sorry to hear that you’re still feeling a little depressed. It’s great to hear you reflect on the possible impact alcohol might be having on you and taking the necessary steps to avoid things worsening.
Do you have any friends there with you who you trust to confide in about how you’re feeling? Or any particular coping strategies that usually help get you through?
Feel free to keep us updated with how the rest of the trip goes!
Schoolies ends Saturday, I decided to get off my ass and host a party in the apartment pool and I've managed to wrangle about twenty people so thats, at the least, a very stressful distraction haha. In regards to the confiding in friends, I told them I was feeling a little depressed on the second night but can't exactly go into much detail (private all boys catholic school, I'm sure you can guess why mental health isn't exactly the biggest concern among this crowd lmao). Coping strategy wise I'm just trying to plan everything out in detail and stay a little isolated. I'm not entirely how to end these posts. Um, smell ya later, alligator
Thanks for updating us, I am glad to hear you are taking steps to lift your spirits. Sounds like its going to be an awesome party 🥳 Planning something fun is a great way to deal with feelings of disappointment. If you wanted to get some ideas for any additional coping strategies I have linked an article on self help for depression you may like to check out.
I am sorry to hear you aren’t able to talk openly about your mental health to your friends, but I am really glad you have come to the forums to speak with other young people who understand. I hope you are able to spend some time connecting with other community members on here who may be navigating similar challenges.
I wish you all the best with the party planning!
