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Really devastated

Hey guys,

I've recently found out that my counsellor is leaving at the end of this year and the old school counsellor is coming back..

I don't connect well with the old counsellor and I'm really upset that the counsellor I like is leaving. Next week is my last appointment with her and I don't know what to do, basically I'm losing my counsellor all together and I don't like the other one so I have my psych once every 3 months and that's all the face to face support I get.

Of course I have online and over the phone counsellors I can speak to but it isn't the same as seeing them face to face.

I think I'm going to cry when my counsellor leaves and it's really upsetting me and actually causing me to self harm. I'm really scared and upset what do I do????
Pillow
PillowPosted 11-12-2013 06:05 PM

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m-y93
m-y93Posted 11-12-2013 09:42 PM

Hiya  @Pillow 

It must really suck that the counsellor you seem to have a bond with is leaving, I'm sorry to hear that, sometimes life can really be unfair. 

I think both @Chessca_H  and @Lex have provided great solutions such as seeking help elsewhere and asking the current counsellor if they have any suggestions on what to do after they leave. 

I also believe your thoughts on self harming  are unfortuante, I hope you get through everything and stay strong remember that harming yourself will not solve the issue. You should handle your problems face first and resolve them so they don't return. I can only imagine how scared and upset you are but you're not alone. Stay strong and best of luck 🙂 

 
Lex
LexPosted 11-12-2013 08:28 PM

Hey there @Pillow â€¦ that's rough, I'm sorry. Life has a habit of throwing everything at us at once sometimes, doesn't it?

 

Since you still have an appointment with the current counsellor this week, have you considered talking to them about your issues with the old counsellor, that you've dealt with them before, you don't feel they are right for you, and ask her if she has any other solutions or suggestions?

 

It can take time to find a counsellor that works for you — and most counsellors understand that. The returning counsellor won't take it personally, and the one who's there now should understand things can be that way. So, there's absolutely no harm in asking the current counsellor — or even the old one who's returning — what your alternative options might be.

 

 
Chessca_H
Chessca_HPosted 11-12-2013 07:08 PM

Hi @Pillow ,

 

That sounds really tough, I know from experience that it can be pretty difficult to find a counsellor you can really connect with.

It may be a good idea for you to seek new face-to-face counselling through another avenue, if you have a chat with your GP about how you've been feeling they will be able to refer you to a new counselling service.

Remember, it may take a few tries to find one that is the right fit for you!

In the meantime, there are a couple of options you can use in relation to your issues with self-harm. You can find some distraction skills to help you cope (DBTselfhelp.com has a good list of possible ones for you to use), or if you want to talk with someone about your self harm in order to cope the Bodies Under Siege (BUS) Web board might be good for you to check out.

Good luck in finding someone new and I support you in your search 🙂

Chessca

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