Anxiety and why people are annoying
I question why I even pretend to care about anyone when I wish they could sometimes suffer as much as I am. I think the whole idea of good things comes to those who wait is the pleading of a beggar who blames their failures on everyone but themselves and refuses to acknowledge their own flaws. Honestly, I'm enraged, angry, miserable, upset, anxious all at once every day all day. I've sought help, I've tried helping myself, but I still got my problems. I despise people who merely think that just because once they get a little anxious about something means they know anxiety, they know nothing, they're a pathetic existence that has had a good life. I never hurt anyone in my life, I've always been kind, well-mannered and caring of others so if you think that I may have deserved what I'm going through because of what I did, you're wrong. I am now less caring and don't care about others as much, but I hide that from others because once people find out you have a painful existence they never see you as anything but a broken thing.
Please mention how you feel about having anxiety and if you hate people as well?
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Hi @DanielAnIndividual! Welcome to the forums!
You don't deserve what is happening to you at all. Anxiety can be so debilitating and not many people understand the big impact it can have on a person's life. 😞 Sometimes, bad things can happen to people for no apparent reason and good people have to face so much trauma.
I can relate to your feelings of anger and frustration towards people who don't know what you're going through. I tend to feel the same towards a lot of people in my own life. I know we can't read minds and some people can't be blamed for not seeing what we're experiencing but it can often feel as though no one cares about us or wants to help. I really admire you for trying things to help yourself, even if they haven't worked for you. Learning what helps us can be a big learning curve with lots of trial and error.
I don't have much to suggest that hasn't already been said, but is there anything that distracts you from having these thoughts, such as self-care and focusing on your hobbies? Sometimes, I also write down how I'm feeling or try to think about positives.
I'm sorry to hear you are in a tough headspace right now. We appreciate you reaching out.
What you feel is understandable- everyone is angry and jaded sometimes. What has caused you to feel you this way? Is there anything that makes you feel better or relieved, even for a short while?
My advice would be to practise self-compassion, whatever that look like for you- this might be writing down your feelings, acknowledging them, finding positive distractions, engaging in healthy habits, and utilizing online spaces like this. You say you find social interaction unhelpful for you right now- so your self-compassion may involve getting some productive alone time too. Maybe do some exercise or something creative. We are here to listen and provide clarity for you.
I'm going to try more things to heal myself and not look at life in such a bad way.
There was some trauma in my life that went on for two years and that part of my life is now over but the stress and anxiousness from that time is affecting my life now.
Hey @DanielAnIndividual , it can take time to heal from trauma, and it sounds like you're really switched on about the affect it's having on your life now. I think that's a big step in itself to starting to heal. Be gentle with yourself - have you had any professional help from a counsellor or psychologist at all?
I've been seeking psychological help and also have been taking medication however in the whole scheme of things I'm still not sure what is the best way to get better
It's great that you know you want to look at life in a more positive way. I know for me I often go through really highs and lows, it's the middles that are harder to find balance in. Like one day I'll see things really positively so then when it switches to a worse mindset I find myself come crashing down and feel like the negative hits harder. I don't know if this is the case for you or if you relate in anyway but I just wanted to let you know its a really big step to even acknowledge that you want to view things differently and so if you have a set back it might be cool to remind yourself of how far you've come. A few steps forward, one step back followed by a few steps forward again is the (cliche) case for me and a lot of people! Hope you are doing well.
@DanielAnIndividual right, I see. It's good to hear you have been seeking help from some great resources. You say you are unsure if it's the best way to go- that's understandable. We all feel uncertain about the path and mental health journey we are on sometimes. It can be useful to reflect on areas of improvement and how can we address them sometimes- but we have to also look at the positives too. What is working for you? What have you learnt about yourself or the situation so far?
Hey @DanielAnIndividual ,
It sounds really exhausting and distressing having those feelings ,there's a lot of people here on the forums that live with anxiety, and like @Tiny_leaf said there's a lot of people who are happy to share what's worked for them. I don't think that anyone here would think that you're deserving of feeling that kind of pain, and this is a safe space to chat through different things that may help you, or just to vent about what you're going through.
I've had anxiety (General anxiety disorder and social anxiety). I also get the hating people sometimes, it's getting worse for me...
I don't think you deserve what's happening for you. It sounds exhausting...
I just want to say that generally, everyone here is really nice. So it's a safe place to say what you need to say, I really doubt anyone will blame you.
With the anxiety, I've had both social and general anxiety.
With the social anxiety, I was able to make a lot of progress in therapy, but it was really debilitating for a while.
My general anxiety is a lot more treatment resistant, I don't think it'll go away any time soon.
So like.. if you're looking for people who understand anxiety and who can relate, you've come to the right place (there are a fair few of us here).
And if you'd like some ideas on managing your anxiety from people who've actually been there, you're welcome to ask.
Do either of those ideas sound good?
With the hating people, it's a bit complex for me. I'm part of a few different minority groups, so I've seen some people publicly declare that people like me should be killed, locked up, not born, ect. Between that, trauma and various everyday discrimination, I've been left with a less than positive veiw of people.
Also though I do find people hard to deal with and annoying in real life (I manage on here pretty well though, everyone's really nice. I hope it makes it easier for you too)
Do you think it would be helpful to talk about what's bringing up those feelings for you? Or we could talk about ways to manage those feeling of you want, I know how overwhelming and exhausting they can be...
Anyway this turned out longer than expected but hopefully some of it is helpful. And if it isn't, more people should show up in the morning and one of them might be able to help.
