Is it just me
Hello
someone said to me today “you don’t have to hang out with me if you don’t want to “ is this them saying they don’t want me to hang out with them or is that just me acting crazy
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Hey @Lonelyboy17 I don't think you're acting crazy at all, the things people say may not always have a double meaning. Is this a close friend or someone new in your life? In what context did it happen?
I actually say this sometimes with my close friends just in case they're tired from work/uni. We respect each other's decisions if we're not feeling up to it that particular day. There's a mutual understanding and then we reconnect later on in the week 
Does this sound like your situation?
Hmm, I can see why you thought she said it all of a sudden. How did you feel when she said that? Have you tried to talk to her again and ask her about it?
It's good to hear that you have other friends to support you and hang out with. Do you think it would help clear it up if you spoke to her about it?
Hey @xXLexi_Lou122Xx ,
I noticed that you are posting a lot on different threads about how you are having a tough time at the moment. I think it might be a good idea if you started your own thread in the tough times section, that way people will be able to help you more specifically 🙂
I guess you're right. But in this case, I was intending that I understand most of the situation.
im sorry to hear about your friendship situation, SpaceJam has given some good advice.
can i ask does the friend who said that to you have other friends?
the reason i ask is perhaps shes feeling quite down and insecure about herself ie- 'am i worth having friends' Becasue youve said its out of the blue, im also thinking it might not be in her nature to push others away and is trying to cope with something?
Hey @Lonelyboy17 well done on having a chat with your friend, these kinds of conversations can be hard sometimes and that took a lot of courage on your part. I think @WheresMySquishy made a good point, some people do need to 'recharge' and be alone for a little bit. Whereas others 'recharge' by being with others. Maybe that is what she meant when she says she doesn't like people in her life constantly? You could possibly ask her what she meant by that, does that sound like something she would respond to?
How did you feel after having the chat with your friend?
I think @WheresMySquishy and @spacejam have it on point about some people recharging in different ways.
I think ultimately your friend is the best person to ask what they mean by what they day. Sometimes we might say one thing would could be interpreted as one thing when they could have meant the opposite (does that make sense?)
Either way I'm so proud to hear you reached out and spoke to your friend! 🙂
Hi @Lonelyboy17, what she said might have sounded hurtful but remember, it's not your fault. Some people need to take a break and 'recharge' after socialising and she could be one of them. It definitely doesn't sound like you did anything to upset her. I hope that you can still be friends and support each other.
I guess with the current situation I'm in, She is saying that she needs some space. Or she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but she may not want to be your friend...
But let's not get to that point shall we?
That's how I interpreted it.
I am not a great person at solving problems like this, so I suggest going to see someone you trust, and telling them about it. That's the best I can do. @spacejam might have some better ideas. I am still here for you if you need. I'll always listen, and give my best advice.
i hope the chat goes well and you can move forward as friends even if your not as close as you once were.
