Hey @valentine033 I'm so sorry your friend is so horrible to you and you're feeling stuck 😞 It's not your fault and what she says isn't true 😞 You're not alone in your experiences, as I'm sure you can see already from the responses on your thread. I know it's not the same, but when I was younger (this was in primary school) I had a friend who would call me those kind of names and I felt really insecure- but she was my only friend at the time. That was hard, so I can't imagine how horrible it is for you- It sounds almost like you're being trapped and made to feel like there's no escape 😞 What your friend is doing is not okay, no one deserves to be treated like a slave and to have someone try and turn their peers against them. The fact it's happening online too... 😞 From an outside perspective, it kind of sounds like your friend is bullying you? What do you think? 😞
I can understand the not wanting to be alone- if you do choose to stop being friends, know that being alone is temporary. And things change, they don't stay the same forever, even though it might not feel like that now. It sounds like your friend's behaviour would cause so much psychological damage to anyone. It sounds almost like she's trying to isolate you from everyone else so that you feel she is all you have? Am I hearing that right? I think it could be helpful to consider making some kind of change, for your own wellbeing. Because you deserve to feel good about yourself. I'm not sure if you want suggestions, so feel free to ignore this but there are so many options here- E.g. You could try setting up stricter boundaries with your friend, you could try finding new friends while slowly phasing out your current friend, you could ask someone for help, like a counsellor, or a parent/teacher. It's amazing you've reached out for help on here, asking for help/advice can be pretty daunting. You don't have to, but I would really encourage trying to distance from your friends negativity- e.g. by blocking her on social media. It might be helpful to know that your friend's treatment of you, it's not a reflection of you. Something else is clearly going on that she feels the need to treat another person that way. It doesn't make her a bad person of course (everyone has reasons for doing bad things and people make mistakes), but it still does not make what she's doing at all okay. I'm hoping it helps to know her behaviour is not a reflection of you- there's nothing about you, nothing you did, to deserve this. And there are so many ways that things can change for the better.
We're here for you @valentine033, okay? ❤️ You can come on here whenever you need and we will be here to support you. We think you (just like every person) are worthy, smart, beautiful and deserve support and respect- so please don't hesitate to reach out. Also if you need some more intensive support, you can always check out some links to support here
