@Iona-RO @fishyie @Sophia-RO @Bre-RO Update! Going to try and chat to my friend this week and have more of a look at that thread. Jumping back to what I mentioned at the start of this thread, I was chatting to a girl in my drama class, who seemed to get the impression that something was going on between this guy and I. I remembered a quote from the book “Every Heart A Doorway” with an asexual main character, Nancy:
“She didn't mind flirting. Flirting was safe, flirting was fun; flirting was a way of interacting with her peers without anyone realizing that there was anything strange about her. She could have flirted forever. It was just the things that came after flirting that she had no interest in.”
I feel like a relate a lot to this. My interactions with this guy kind of feels like how it did with the boy I mentioned briefly dating in Grade 9, just before we started dating. In-jokes and in the classes we share mostly spending time with each other. Of course in Grade 9 I didn’t realise how that boy felt, but now I can recognise it better. I just like the way things are at the moment, I enjoy the friendship and enjoy the jokes and don’t really want to move further from here, but I feel like if I keep going on this way it will move because I’m flirting and suggesting that I want things to move? I’m not even sure if what I’m doing is flirting, I’m not sure if I really know how to do it. Is it weird that I like spending time with a person a lot and am kind of flirting with them but don’t want to date them?
Have also been chatting a bit with the boy from Grade 9 (through Drama as well). Again, I really enjoy chatting with him but don’t feel anything beyond that. I recently found out that he’s dating another girl, or they are at least both interested in each other and was surprised to realise that I didn’t care or really feel anything about it.
