Hey @lemurien I'm glad my anecdotes helped a bit! It's really mature for you to recognise that this isn't something that has a quick-fix. My friend said a similar thing and I appreciated that a lot more, personally. And that must be so frustrating and hurtful that even when you put in effort to see her it didn't work out. I might be all wrong about this, but it sounds like your friends mainly confront you about this in person, even though it's an online problem, so you don't have any warning until you see them? It would make it hard when you finally can reach them in a quality way and it's a negative interaction.
That's interesting that you say you feel anxious with online messaging. Having no time to reflect on what to say- do you feel like that in person too? It seems like the online world can be different for you?
I'm also glad I could help at all! It's always nice getting updates from you, but since there's lots of us following your journey always feel free to get some space if you need ❤️
