I am really overwhelmed right now.
Last term, I was really busy with school and extraccurriculars, so i didnt get to spend much lunch time with my group. I was still close with them, and thought everything was fine, hanging out ater school etc. i made an effort this term to get some balance back and have msot lunchtimes free. what i didnt realise is my group has drifted part, and whilst i still have 'freinds' i dont really have a close group to be with anymore. As an extrovert, this makes me feel really lonely, as because i was busy, i deprioritised making more friends and was trying to focus on getting deeper relationships with a few (8-9). i still have all these, but its hard bc they arent together anymore so its really scary.
The other thing thats scary with this is that i go to an only girls school, but all my friends in their own different groups have been haning out with boys from the brother school after school. i was invited to a few, but was really tired and didnt think much of it, instead prioritising 'group hangouts' (but now we arent even a group anymore). The formal of that school is literally in three weeks and they have all gotten close with boys from different groups who have invited them to formal. now it is too late and i cant go with because i dont have a date, and all the boys my friends know are taken. i dont know where else to meet boys outside of friends, as all my extracurriculars are netball (a girls sport) or things run through school, and i dont have time for more or to get a job.
The problem is i literally know no boys who arent either really creepy and older or younger, or are already taken family friends.
I know i shouldn;t care, but i do!
I feel really lonely and left out as they are all planning outfits and arrangements for pres and afters, but there is literally nothing i can do.
Do you have any advice. To move groups completely would be really hard as the old group was literally all my best friends, and they still are, and want to include me, but its just hard and im really struggling.
has anyone else had something similar?
what did you do?
how do i get a date for three weeks?
what do i do for my formal at the end of next term (the latest one of all the schools), when all the boys and alll my besties are taken?
