Hi @Blurryphaced ,
Thank you for sharing what has been happening for you recently. I'm sorry to hear that your family have been making inappropriate jokes that have left you feeling nervous and flustered when you are working around this professor. It sounds like it is on your mind a lot and that it has really affected you.
It must be so hard to have to work so closely with this professor, yet at the same time, have questions in your mind as to whether you are giving off a false impression. It is understandable you feel anxious and flustered when you speak to him.
I'm curious to know whether you would consider telling your family how hurt you feel by what they have said? This does not mean coming out, but rather, for them to know that their words have really hurt you?
I was reading this article and thought it may be of interest to you. I know it is titled, 'How to tell your friend they've hurt you', but I feel the ideas and concepts are also relevant when family members hurt you.
It is important you feel respected and heard. At the same time, perhaps your family don't know that you are hurt by their jokes? What do you think?
