TW: What should I do?
So for the past year and a half my little sister, who is 8 now, has been staying up later and later and has now broken up my parents.
On top of that, I am the oldest child who my mother and stepfather fight through and I hate it.
I have a friend who's house I have been sleeping over at recently, but I now hate to come back and want to stay there.
I have also been forced to be closeted and have been suicidal for 4 years and don't know what to do anymore.
If anyone knows anything, I would like any suggestions. Even if it involves running away.
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Hey @Mia99
I just wanted to check in and ask how you're going at the moment?
Seeing your mother and stepfather fight must be so difficult... 😞It can be really emotionally draining and confusing seeing adults fight. It can be quite weird and jarring when people who are essentially your caregivers and people who you want to look up to for love and support, and people who you want to see as models for your own potential future relationships, argue so much.
I did notice you said you've been forced to be closeted and that you've been suicidal for years now. I just wanted to ask, are you safe right now?
Who do you have to provide you with support at the moment? A counsellor or psychologist? Trusted teacher or friend?
I hope you're doing okay today. Rest up and do some self care ❤️
hey girl,
idk if this is good advice but techincally it's not running away. at 16 i think ur allowed to move out of home as long ur financially stable and in a safe environment (to live) and the cops can't force u back home nor can ur parents. also centrelink pays a lot if ur at least 16. this is what i would do and actually plant to do next year (when i turn 16). staying with a friend or other family member is good but rent is an option too.
also i don't recommend running away (i have and it will do you no good).
again, this is just what i'd do, i hope this helps tho
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It is so helpful to know that this has been what has worked for you. It is so wonderful of you to share this to help other people going through a similar thing.
To anyone reading, different things work for different people. These rules can vary depending on your situation, your circumstances or where you live. For this reason, it is best to seek advice from Centrelink who can advise you. Moving out of home can be quite frightening and stressful, even if it is for the best. It can help to have your own supports to help you figure out some of the changes and details. For example, you might like to talk to a trusted adult, a family member, a teacher, a counsellor or your local GP. We also have an article on moving out of home here which you might find helpful to read.
Hey @Mia99
I just wanted to check in with you - how are you going? It sounds like things have been really tough lately. We are here to listen 
Hi @Mia99
I can definitely relate to not wanting to be at home- sometimes you just want to escape to somewhere less suffocating. I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling this way. Have you been taking care of yourself in this difficult situation? I encourage you to practice any hobbies or self-care methods such as yoga or meditiation which might help you cope?...I'm speaking from experience; they really work!
I agree with @Sophia-RO I think you should seek out a helpline or counsellor/psychologist who may be able to give you some professional guidance.
I'm here if you need to talk or vent, it must really suck :((
Hey @Mia99 , I am sorry to hear about what you have been going through lately. It sounds like things are really tough for you and it sucks that you are feeling like you don't want to go home. It sounds like you are feeling a bit lost as you mentioned not knowing what to do anymore. That sounds like a really difficult way to feel. Do you have anyone around you that you can talk to about how you have been feeling? Kids Helpline and Headspace offer free and confidential counselling services if you would like to talk with a counsellor about what you have been going through. They also offer online chat if that would suit you better 😃.
I also just wanted to let you know that I will be sending you an email shortly, so please keep an eye out for that!
