Help with dealing with stuff

At the moment I don't have a bedtime routine cuz I'm stuck in lockdown so I sleep during the day to get thru the boredom😅 and I really don't know what's stopping me from sleep, I've tried everything😞

Hi again @Rainbow_foxy 

That's very understandable, but probably not helping you get to sleep at night...

Would you us to help think of ideas to help keep you less bored during the day?

Setting up some sort of routine can help even if you don't do it at the same time every day. Maybe you could use scents (lavender is popular for sleep) every time you get ready to sleep, or put on some background noise like music or white noise from the internet.

Anyway sorry that it took me a while to reply, I've had a bit going on as well but I hope this helps!

It's okay, take your time. And yes thank you I'll try those suggestions. And it'll be awesome if you guys could help me find a routine to do during the day☺

Sorry for disapearing @Rainbow_foxy 

I've had a bit going on but I haven't forgotten you!

I'd started writing a post of suggestions and then I remembered that there are a lot of ideas and I don't even know what sort of things you like to do.

So do you have any hobbies or intrests already? Or are there any activities you'd like to try?

I'm so sorry for that last reply, it was at 3am when I replied and I was tjred😅 I didn't mean to reply with a short msg. And it's okay, take your time

I like reading and drawing, I also like listening to music☺

I love those things too @Rainbow_foxy !

What types of things do you read and draw? 😊

I love drawing animals, even if I'm not very good at it haha! 

I draw pretty much anything☺ but mostly baby stuff (like baby animals or baby bottles😅) 

We were bestfriends😔 she was always there for me😔 then we dated for 2 months and we kept fighting non-stop and then she ended things with me. We tired to be friends but we kept fighting so she ended the friendship today and it's been really hard to deal with. She was my "emotional support buddy". But to make things worse I haven't been sleeping well at night so I fell asleep earlier and when I woke up I was blocked by my other friend😔 

Awww @Rainbow_foxy, they sound like they were really special to you. Things get really tough when you start to fight a lot, I know it isn't a nice feeling at all. I can hear that it has been impacting your ability to sleep, that must be so hard 😞 Let us know if you find any of the coping strategies helpful. Is there anyone else in your life that you can talk to about this? If you are interested, we have some articles on relationship breakups here, it covers both friendships and romantic relationships. 

I'm currently struggling to find people to talk to. I'm scared that if I let people in they will leave so I push them away😞 I talk to my family but its not the same as having a friend. And yeah they were very special to me but I guess it was better to let thrm go then have them stay if they didn't want to😞

@Rainbow_foxy I'm sorry to hear that you don't have many people to talk to besides your family. It can be really difficult to trust people again when you've been hurt in the past. I hope you know that we are all here to support you and listen when you need to vent and get things off your chest ❤️ 

How are you feeling today? 

My trust issues are really bad now. And to make things worse I've been getting cyberbullied. I didn't realize it until my mum told me about it so I've deleted the app I was being bullied on. And the person who left said goodbye to me and it hurt but I guess it wasn't meant to be🥺 as long as she's happy, right?🥺 and thank you so much☺

Hello @Rainbow_foxy, it sucks to hear that you feel like your trust issues are quite bad and that you were cyberbullied recently. It's good that your mum has been with you throughout this and that you felt comfortable deleting the app. Hope that you are feeling supported throughout this time 💜. Are there are activities or strategies that you can do tonight that might help you feel a bit better? 

My mum is my bestfriend☺ and I'm thankful for the life she gave me☺ and currently I've been getting lost in movies and reading at night but that hasn't seemed to help me. It usually does but when I'm reading these days I seem to think and when I'm watching my movies I get hyperactive😅 pros of having ADHD😅

Hi @Rainbow_foxy It's so good to hear that you have the support of your mum, it's always nice to have that support. I'm also sorry to hear that movies and reading hasn't been helping much. Is there anything else that you could do, that usually helps you relax?

We are all here for you 💜

I did a few breathing exercises last night that helped a little☺ I'm trying everything out to see what works and what doesn't☺ on a plus side I blocked my toxic friend and made a new friend☺

Breathing exercises can be so good for decreasing anxiety/stress, and getting people in "sleepy" mode before bed time. Regular exercise can also be a really effective coping strategy for some people, and has been associcated with better sleep. If you do exercise though, you might want to avoid exercising before bedtime because that can actually hype you up / energise you which will make it harder to sleep. So it might be best to  exercise in the morning or at least a couple of hours before bedtime.

I'm super glad to hear that you made a new friend and ended things with your toxic friend 😋

Most days when I'm awake I usually go for small walks around my neighbourhood because it helps me handle the lockdown more easily. And yeah it hurt me to do it because she meant so much to me but sometimes you have to let go of people you love to help yourself then keep them in your life🥺 and yeah my new friend is awesome☺

I'm glad that walks have helped you - during lockdown they have definitely helped me too 💙 I find that they're really good for clearing my head when my thoughts are foggy or I feel unmotivated.

I'm glad that you can acknowledge that you sometimes have to let go of people to take care of yourself 😊 Letting go is such a hard lesson to learn... but sometimes you have to let go to allow for better things to come into your life (like your new friend!). 

Yeah letting go of her was one if the best things I ever did. I'm working on my mental health which has helped me sleep more, I'm now sleeping during the night☺ I miss her but I know it's better for the both of us to let her go☺ and I'm much more happier now☺☺