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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:11 PM
Okay guys, time to move on to the next question for tonight.
2. What, for you, is the most difficult male stereotype to accept?
Personally, I think that the most difficult stereotype is that we have to be tough and emotionally closed off. Men don’t cry. It took me a long time to come to terms with this growing up and i still struggle with it from time to time.
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:17 PM
2. What, for you, is the most difficult male stereotype to accept?
Muscular, hairy, extremely strong looking. It makes all the other males who don't fit into this category feel inadequate and like they aren't men. Oh and another one is definitely that guys don't cry.
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:16 PM
2. What, for you, is the most difficult male stereotype to accept?
Being stoic and rather emotionally neutral a lot of the time.
Sometimes i feel like to be kind, friendly and caring....I naturally loose some of that masculinity.
but theres plently of people that can do both.....but at the end of the day, im happy if people are expressing themself naturally rather then trying to keep up with a certain norm.
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:13 PM
What, for you, is the most difficult male stereotype to accept?That men are meant to protect and look after the woman, like we can't (and shouldn't) do it ourselves.
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:19 PM
Welcome to the GR @copse
That is a really important point. Some stereotypes place a massive emphasis on men being the physically and emotionally strong provider, protector and breadwinner, and in doing so, it also can be disempowering to women.
Being a male myself, I don't think I even fit that tough, protector role.
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:17 PM
@copse That's a really interesting point and great way to bring women into the dialoge 🙂 Women are perfectly capable of looking after themselves and this common stereotype is not only unfair on men but quite patronizing to women too!- Mark as New
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:09 PM
do you have many guy friends who struggle with being open about their feelings? Most of my guy friends have found it super challenging!
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:12 PM
Surprisngly, when I was growing up the males that I was friends with were very open about their feelings. I was mainly surrounded by guys in my friendship group and them opening up to me, made me feel comfortable in opening up to them. Its still the same story now with my guy friends. I think its because I have that personality and work/volunteer in the mental health field. Now, its becoming more widely spoken about. However, my dad and brother struggle to open up. My brother numbs his pain and barely speaks of it. Its great that my younger brother seeks a youth friendly service which really helps him.
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:15 PM
@stephRO That's awesome that you grew up with those kinda guys. I've always felt way more comfortable opening up to girls, in fact that's probably how I learned to become more comfortable with it.
If I didn't get comfortable talking to girls first I don't think I would have ever started doing it with guys. It's also great to hear that your brother is getting support from a good youth service!
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:06 PM
That's a great point, it seems like there are a lot of unfair conceptions about men today, but great organizations like RO are doing their best to break down the stigma and I think great progress is being made 🙂 Also welcome to the chat tonight steph! glad to have you on board- Mark as New
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 7:59 PM
Welcome to tonights GR everyone! Tonight we’ll be talking about mens health and masculinity. If you’re not a dude, don’t worry, you’re still welcome to join in and contribute! Some of the questions will be more directed at males but we do have a bunch of more open ended ones so everyone can join in 🙂
Please remember to check out the community guidelines and keep them in mind as we chat tonight. If you ever feel distressed throughout the session, please take a look at the emergency help resources.
Okay, let’s kick things off for tonight.
What do you think it means to be a man?
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:13 PM
Hey @Troy!
That's a really hard question and I think it's really hard to describe what being a man is without falling into stereotypes that I don't even believe in.
I guess if you're talking about society, being a man means doing all the handiwork, construction jobs, getting paid more and being strong so you can be a good husband.
(Sorry have absolutely no clue)
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:17 PM
Welcome @FootyFan26 !
I know exactly what you mean. When I think of what it is to be a man, it's hard to think of anything BUT stereotypes.
I think that's just how we're brought up, but I think ultimately we need to do what makes us happy and don't have to be a certain way just because stereotypes say we should!
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:27 PM
hi everyone!! I'm excited to join in on tonight... we just had an inspirational speaker at football training and i think we all left pretty emotional which is challenging a gender stereotype.
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:28 PM
@j95 that sounds amazing! football is such a good medium to learn about gender stereotypes, they're doing a lot of work to improve !- Mark as New
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:16 PM
@FootyFan26I think there are a lot of initiatives these days that are trying to reverse this societal thinking! Think about sport, scholarships for university and jobs aimed at improving gender equality.
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:13 PM
Erro! Totally out of my depths here, but I shall give it a go.
What do you think it means to be a man?
Just be yourself. There is no right or wrong way to be a man. Don't let society tell you who you have to be.
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:17 PM
@stonepixie Wish I read your response before I wrote mine 😛 that make total sense.
Living authenticaly to yourself 🙂
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:16 PM
Welcome @stonepixie
That's a beautiful and concise way to put it, and that can be applied to both males and females! Looks like you're not out of your depths at all!
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:15 PM
@stonepixie That's a great way to answer that tough question. Being true to yourself is the most important thing of all
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:11 PM
Whats it mean to be a man?
Honestly, I dont even know anymore....theres so many different people on all differerent scales of masculinity and even femininity....and each to their own.
For me, I guess I think its more about if your successful on your own personal journey getting those things done that you want to achieve.
Im keen to listen to what you guys say, because i dont have a great answer for this one 😛
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:13 PM
I know what you mean. It kinda seems like it's a bit blurry nowdays, but I agree with you about being successful on your own journey, whether you're a male or a female, that's all that should really matter I think!
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:13 PM
@Troy I think that's a great point. It's a question that each person probably has their own answer to! And it's not black and white any more, there's quite a diverse spectrum that we all sit on and people are becoming much more attuned to that idea which is great- Mark as New
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originally posted on 17-08-2015 8:03 PM
Hi all! Welcome to tonight's chat. As @benjamin_ said everyone is more than welcome!What do you think it means to be a man?
For me, this is a really tough question that I have put a lot of thought into over the last few years. I think being a 'man' means making sacrifices. Sacrificing what you want for the needs of your family or loved ones. Basically having the strength to make tough calls in life. What does everyone else think?
