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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:48 PM
@stonepixie, I know exactly what you mean! I feel the same hey, it taught me a lot and makes you a stronger person by being able to move on
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:48 PM
HEY @bessie94
You just reminded me of something and it answers the current question!
9. What would you say to a friend who is struggling with regrets? I'D TELL THEM TO TRAVEL GET OUT THERE AND SEE THE WORLD LOL
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:52 PM
What would you say to a friend who is struggling with regrets?
Let your hair down, go out and experience things, take a step back from the situation. Tell them that they did everything they possibly could at the time.
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:46 PM
Omg! Yay I finally made it to a GR session. I always finish work on a Monday night right about now!Yes, I have felt bogged down before. To get out of it I took some time and thought to myself a lot. About why I was feeling this way and what I could do to get out of that place. I told my self that nothing is unfixable and I can change my attitude and try again
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:47 PM
@bessie94 welcome and congrats!
IT sounds like you employed self-talk, similar to what @sunflowers5 suggested?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:45 PM
Welcome @Troy better late than never!
We're nearly done with all the questions and we've had great feedback tonight!
9. What would you say to a friend who is struggling with regrets?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:41 PM
We can try to give people our time and talk them through things. But ultimately their regret is a part of their life journey and they have to learn from it themselves. It's really what makes dealing with regrets so tough, it's not something you gotta be strong enough to get through your own? Do you guys agree?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:42 PM
Coming in super late, just finished work!
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:38 PM
I feel let down @NutellaBuster all this time I thought it was Blaster 😛Ah well. Explains why the tag didn't work. But it is not something I regret. 😛
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:43 PM
@N1ghtW1ng nutella blaster sounds pretty awesome too. But i don't regret busting the nutella either haha
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:42 PM
.Have you, or someone close to you, ever been so bogged down with regret that it has been hard to move forward? What did you do?
Absolutely. I've been bogged down with some regrets that I would rather not share. But I think, when you feel overwhelmed, sometimes the best thing to do is just to do something. I know it sounds simple, but engaging in any activity can help to cope
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:48 PM
I like to play footy or drums because they take so much of my focus I forget everything else and it's a nice short term break. If I do them enough sometimes I even forget about the event for weeks until someone reminds me. Aftyer I'm reminded I can think back on it with a clearer head and move on.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:49 PM
@FootyFan26 yeah man I know what you mean, sometimes taking a break from a problem and then returning to it can be really useful
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:51 PM
Okay everyone, so last question
Given what we have talked about so far, how do you feel about the current trend of ‘no regrets’?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:56 PM
Given what we have talked about so far, how do you feel about the current trend of ‘no regrets’?
I actually spoke about that near the start but I think it's very unrealistic and regrets are a natural part of life that we learn from. Regret can also have a sense of care like regretting hurting someones feelings and if people don't regret doing something that hurt someone else I wouldn't think that they had the right values.
Everyones regretful at times and feeling regret is not uncool, it's a part of our nature.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:56 PM
No regrets - I think "not unhealthily focusing on regrets" isn't catchy enough, so we ended up with no regrets! It's impossible not to ever feel regret, and you wouldn't learn much even if it was! I think it's just trying to encourage people not to focus on regrets too much, just learn from them
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:55 PM
Given what we have talked about so far, how do you feel about the current trend of ‘no regrets’?I think its safe to say that having regrets to a certain extent is healthy... but its always important to keep the intensity of your emotions in check and make sure you aren't letting things get in the way of your day-to-day life.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:54 PM
I love that trend, but then again it is kind of like YOLO which is modern day 'Carpe Diam'But 'No Regrets' is such a good outlook on life.
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:44 PM
i agree with @tsnyder just do something. The more i dwel on what i regret the worse. I rather not focus on it and movie on 😛 (easier hard than said right:P )
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:46 PM
Funnily enough, I don't regret my abusive relationship. I've just accepted it as part of my life and am trying to move on from it.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:49 PM
@stonepixie that a very positive perspective 🙂
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:45 PM
@Troy hey man welcome to the convo! Better late than never!
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:37 PM
Well... In answer to the last question, I have. Not for very long, just one night really. But there have been a few happened a few years ago but still. One was, and my least favourite memory to date, involves flies. I still feel guilty, because I was forced to throw away something without telling mum, but I'm passed regretting. The other was slapping my dad. I'm not going to try to justify what I did, I was angry at him and my brother and couldn't stop myself. I regretted it immediately but they were eased when he came in to my room and apologised (for antagonising). I tried to push him away but the next day I was passed it. He's the only person I've ever hit in a rage that I can remember. I don't forget it, ironic because I have a terrible memory, but I accept it.I think @tsnyder and @j95 moght have a point, letting the regret sit with you, as long as it is not a major regret and it's not affecting your decisions but I think you should accept it. Before anything, accept that it happened and nothing will change that it has. And then move onto to forgiveness and moving past it.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:42 PM
Have you, or someone close to you, ever been so bogged down with regret that it has been hard to move forward? What did you do?Also a relationship... came out of a terrible one which I was in for a few years. And for that reason it was hard to get over, the regret I had in ever agreeing to go out with me ex-partner was insane! I was upset, angry and just didn't want to trust someone so intimately again... So I guess in that area it really made it hard for me to move on into a serious relationship.
I reminded myself that there are trustworthy/nice people out there and just took my time with meeting someone again! *self talk once more-lots of objective thoughts*
