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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:51 PM
5. When people realise they have made a mistake or done something wrong they usually apologise. Is it ever appropriate to reject an apology?
I think its not to so much appropriate to reject an apology but its fine to let the other person know you haven't completely forgiven them yet and need more time.
I think its important to always appreciate that someone does feel bad for the things they've done...
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:44 PM
@FootyFan26 sounds like a good strategy!
I feel like overthinking things is a root of many many many self-created problems. I think its much happier if you just keep moving and stay grounded in whats important to you rather then dwelling on the variety of conflicts that pop up.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:35 PM
@FootyFan26 thats an interesting point!sometimes we may apologise knowing how a person may react... so we may do it out of fear and completely not mean at all.. but hey, can we help it or avoid that? 😕
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:38 PM
Another hard question dude.
I guess if I hadn't said sorry to him he may not have calmed down as fast compared to when I did and when he's angry he does a whole lot of crazy shit. I think I'd prefer to say a meaningless sorry for something I didn't do than have a weed addict rampaging through the house.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:42 PM
@FootyFan26 Sounds like a tactical decision. Some things just arent worth it hey
Is saying sorry enough? Or are there times when more is needed?
In high school i always remember telling my girlfriend at the time that actions speak louder then words and I still probably believe it.
I think if someone is truely sorry, you will feel it in there energy, effort , decisions and everything about it.
If there not, you will equally feel nothing in their lifeless apology that probably did nothing for you emotionally, other then perhaps frustrate you.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:40 PM
@FootyFan26 that makes perfect sense!its unfortunate that you have to do it but I guess sometimes such things are the smarter decision.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:37 PM
Loving everyones responses so far...
moving on,
4. Is saying sorry enough? Or are there times when more is needed?
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:29 PM
Yeh I agree with that one @Troysometimes we may apologise just out of social courtesy but we may not entirely mean it...
I think in such situations our main intention is to be polite so that should be fine and not morally wrong...
where as if its to something close to us regarding a much more intimate issue.. I personally do not think its okay to apologise and not mean it.
I think once you apologise you shouldn't be repeating the same mistake again and again because the apology loses all meaning!
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:17 PM
2. What can stop us from wanting to apologize?Pride can get in the way.
Or sometimes we don't think we have done anything wrong.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:19 PM
seems like pride is already a theme! @redhead What do you think pride is in this context? Just asking since you had such a good definition before!
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:04 PM
Hi all. I probably can't stay all night but I'm here for now.Tell us about the last time you had to say sorry to someone in a real way - why was it important?
Saying sorry means that the person is more important than the problem. And that we also acknowledged that we know we were wrong and want to fix things.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:07 PM
" sayying sorry means that the person it more important than the problem" @redhead I really like the statement. I might even steal that philisophy next time im in a big arguemtn and was to diffuse it 🙂
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:09 PM
Tell us about the last time you had to say sorry to someone in a real way - why was it important?
Saying sorry is important because forgiveness is an important part of getting over something. The last time I said sorry was to my english teacher because they thought I was purposely trying to be rude and ignore them when I wasn't intentionally doing it. If I hadn't said sorry I would probably still be regretting it.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:13 PM
Welcome to the chat @FootyFan26!
The worst when people think yo uare being rude and you are not 😛 once they think it.........everything you do gets interpreted that way ><
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:15 PM
Okay guys, lets move on!
we know that sometimes we do need to apologise to people but.
2. What can stop us from wanting to apologize?
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:21 PM
I can't seem to find my other post, so I'll join in again 🙂
I agree that pride can get in the way and also sometimes I feel like I'm always the one apologising even if I haven't done anything wrong
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:19 PM
Okay, things that may stop me from wanting to apologise ...1. Is when the person is very close minded and doesn't want to compromise or understand an issue from other perspectives..
2. When the opposite person has said/done something super inappropriate or harsh when 'upset'
3. Or if I think I am right (unfortunate ego haha)
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:19 PM
2. What can stop us from wanting to apologize?
- Embarrassment
- Misunderstandings
- People taking it the wrong way
- Looking weak
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:21 PM
thats a good list @FootyFan26. I can definately think of a lot of times where I dont want to admit I am wrong and feel vulnerable nad perhaps weak. Especially if they dont accept your apology, that can deter you in the future from trying to apologise even when you are wrong.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:23 PM
@Troy thats so true when you feel weak asking for forgiveness incase they might not forgive you.. I think once that happens pride comes in...- Mark as New
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:24 PM
Im assuming as people we all feel our opinions or the way we view a situation is right! So once we have a disagreement, fight or whatever the situation may be that we need to apologise .. Our pride and value of our opinions comes in and really makes it hard to ask for forgiveness!If that makes sense!
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:27 PM
@sunflowers5 most of it made sense 😛 still probably more sense then I make half the time o.0
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:17 PM
I dont know about everyone else..........but for me its my pride. Somehow I can be so wrong, but still convince myself I am right >< .
The next day I think about it and realise how stupid I was in many situations:P
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:12 PM
Welcome @FootyFan26 🙂Thats a hell'a true! Forgiveness is definitely a huge part in getting over something ... definitely a big step involved in the process!
aww, thats heaps good...
usually misunderstandings are a big reason we apologise.. I guess its important we watch the way we act or speak sometimes because you don't want anyone to interpret you the wring way and get upset!
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