originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:20 PM

8. "saying sorry and forgiveness involves being pretty self-aware. what are some of the ways that you know to build self-awareness & understanding"?

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:26 PM

I personally like to build self awareness from meditation. meditation has weird connotation but basically all your doing is focusing on the moment and not trapped inside yourhead with a plethora of thoughts.

 

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:26 PM

I think some ways we can build on self-awareness and understanding is:
1. Communicating with the other person and getting all your feelings out.
2. Evaluating the situation and keeping an eye for it to avoid it happening again. But this doesn't mean to be closed to trying certain things again.
3. Reminding your self that these things happen. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone gets hurt, learn from it and move on. SELF TALK!

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:27 PM

great tips on self-awareness guys!

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:30 PM

On the note of great tips

 

 

10. Apart from forgiveness, what are other ways that you challenge negative thoughts in your own life?

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:37 PM

Apart from forgiveness, what are other ways that you challenge negative thoughts in your own life?

 

I personally don't but meditation and reflection are good ways to go.

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:38 PM

@FootyFan26 maybe you can give it a go if ever needed :3

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:39 PM

Question 10 guys. Lets give it all, 

 

10. Research has shown that people who forgive experience more happiness and even are in better physical health (particularly in terms of cardiovascular health).

We'd love you hear you theories on why this is!! Go!

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:43 PM

I think this theory sounds good! When I dont forgive people and I hold onto resentment I feel like I suffer a lot. Especially if its someone i have a big grudge on

 

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:41 PM

I think letting things go *I know you all thought of Frozen* just leads to a happier and lighter mind which just makes you feel at ease haha!
And in turn you'll obviously feel less tense, more open to things, have a clear mind and take the day as it comes ... leading to a better physical health 😄

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:32 PM

I think we can challenge negative thoughts by looking at the outcome and realising that what we are fearing is often imagine in our minds and not actually real.

 

 

HAHA ^ this ones even better

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:32 PM

I tell myself that thoughts do not equal reality!
don't get caught up in thinking (slowly believing) something horrible when you're not even 100% sure its real.

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:08 PM

time for some reflecting guys, 

7. When was the last time you had to forgive someone for something significant - what did you commit to as part of the apology?

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:14 PM

For me, last time I committed to not doing that action and putting myself in a situation where it could happen. When A similar situation would start to emerge I would think "nope not this again" and really cut the problem at the roots. 

 

I guess in a sense, through my apology I committed to not making the same mistake a second time.

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:16 PM

@Troy thats awesome! 

you learnt from it and avoided it completely when you sensed it ...

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:10 PM

I think what we committed to the last time I forgave someone was an understanding. And really letting the other person know why this certain things hurts me and how we can move away from making it happen again.

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:17 PM

7. When was the last time you had to forgive someone for something significant - what did you commit to as part of the apology?

 

I said sorry to my english teacher because they thought I was going out of my way to make their job hard.

My commitments are probably going to be to try harder and have a more positive attitude towards the subject.

originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:08 PM

If its something significant I personally am not satisfied by words. I have to really be able to feel they mean it. However, if its something not that significant I am happy if they just acknowledge it with a quick few words even the single word 'sorry' and then we both move on 🙂 

Sometimes moving on in enough and you dont need anything said, but the vibe that your both moving past it (i think more common for guys, is enough to make me feel satisfied

originally posted on 06-07-2015 8:45 PM

@redhead your smashing these questions. Im literally vibing all your answers 🙂 cut straight to it