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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:54 PM
What is your ultimate saying sorry song???One thousand apologies by demon hunter
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:52 PM
@Troy I read a book called who switched of my brain it had all these things about how your thoughts produce certain chemicals and then went on how to change them and create new neural osthwt. It also mentioned forgiveness. I recommend the book, it's heavy reading but good.Trying to make my misery
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:43 PM
Research has shown that people who forgive experience more happiness and even are in better physical health (particularly in terms of cardiovascular health).We'd love you hear you theories on why this is!! Go!
When we forgive we rewrite our neural pathways. Forgiveness releases good brain chemicals. And holding onto unforgiveness releases bad brain chemicals and stress hormones.
And to have a healthy body we need the right brain chemistry. We can function with unstable brain chemicals but it's far healthier if they are the food ones.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:48 PM
@redhead what are you studying you seem to know a lot! 🙂
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:32 PM
Apart from forgiveness, what are other ways that you challenge negative thoughts in your own life?Talking to someone you trust about what's going on.
Mindfulness or meditation.
Turning negatives into positive thread.
have a laugh with a mate.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:38 PM
@redhead laughing is a big one for me.
these memes have just given me more energy
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:39 PM
LOL
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:45 PM
10. Research has shown that people who forgive experience more happiness and even are in better physical health (particularly in terms of cardiovascular health). We'd love you hear you theories on why this is!! Go!
I guess it's what poeple call extra baggage and the more you carry the heavier it gets. I'm not really sure how to describe it.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:50 PM
Hey guys! Thanks for an awesome chat… some really good points have been made, especially on self-awareness so thats epic! 😄
As a fun last question to finish off on a light note: What is your ultimate saying sorry song???
Here’s basically a summary of all the awesome things we chatted about tonight!
When asking we forgiveness we know, “the person is more important than the issue” or that we are in the wrong.
Also, most of the times hurt arises from misunderstandings! Its important to apologise none the less and also make sure we present ourselves in an approachable manner 🙂
Often there are things which stop us from wanting to apologise, PRIDE is a huge reason. Other may involve being embarrassing, misunderstandings, feeling weak or thinking you are right.
It’s not good to apologise if we do not mean it because it abuses the other person trust and also loses all meaning. But it may be morally acceptable if we are doing it in a social context to be polite.
And sometimes we may apologise out of fear and not mean it at all. This may be when we know how the opposite person will react (maybe violently, or take something away).
When we do apologise sometimes a verbal sorry does cut it. Depending on the situation we may need to do more (presents and sweet talking haha). But most importantly change is needed because your actions speak louder than your words and its important to stick to your word.
Morally, it can be okay to reject an apology if the person keeps making the same mistake again and again. But everyone deserves a second chance and so we mustn’t completely disregard the first time someone asks us to forgive them. But its completely understandable to ask for more time to stomach everything.
Its also helpful to let a person know how you feel and why you aren’t willing to accept their apology… and let them know how they can make it up to or gain your trust back.
Sometimes an apology can leave us feeling satisfied, so its important to know what you expect from an apology and also let the other person know it to!
Somethings we expect in an apology is to make sure we see change or action taken after forgiven is given, too make sure we aren’t held against it in the future, we would also love to see the apology be genuine. Sometimes, it might also be fine not to say an apology at all but mentally acknowledge it with the other person and move on to not do it again.
Commitment is a huge part of an apology. Usually when we forgive someone we/they must commit. Its nice to commit on an understanding to avoid making the situation come up again, having a better attitude and making a change.
Saying sorry and forgiving involves self-awareness, some ways to build on these is to: Live in the moment, learn from the past and don’t get caught up about the future, reflecting and evaluating on the situation, self-talk and reassuring your self that these things happen, meditation and other calming activities!
While going through such phases in your life its important to combat the negative thoughts! Always remind yourself that thoughts DO NOT equal reality. Also, talking to someone we trust just to get all that negativity out of our system, turning positives into negatives, having a laugh and doing something fun.
Forgiving people and Asking for forgiveness will lead to a happier and healthier mind. This is because you are less tense (no stress hormones released), more open to things and take the day as it comes… We tend to rewrite our neural pathways and allow our brain to release positive chemicals. Also, letting things go, you get rid of extra baggage! Hell yeah!
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:55 PM
can't go past a power ballad
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:57 PM
then... sorry, not sorry
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:55 PM
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:57 PM
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:56 PM
Don't know about that one.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:57 PM
@FootyFan26 thats fine, I'm not too sure either haha!- Mark as New
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 10:00 PM
I think that's a wrap for the night guys!Have a great night everyone 😄
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:59 PM
Thanks for contributing everyone!!!! we had some great perspectives and ideas 🙂
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:53 PM
Old school 90s r&b is a good place to start
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:24 PM
"saying sorry and forgiveness involves being pretty self-aware. what are some of the ways that you know to build self-awareness & understanding"?Try to live in the moment. Forgive and learn from the past and don't get caught up about the future (so hard to do tho, I can't even do it)
Reflection is a great skill to help build up self awareness
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:19 PM
When was the last time you had to forgive someone for something significant - what did you commit to as part of the apology?
Hmmm, I can't really think of anything because I'm personally a really forgiving person (unless I am angry or stresssed af) but usually a 'sorry' with the redeption. FOR EXAMPLE; choir member doesn't show up to practice, realised they stuffed up, says sorry and then comes back to practice = Forgiven. BUT if you say sorry, I forgive and then you keep doing the thing that you said sorry for....... NO DEAL (unless you give me the fluffiest cat ever).
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:16 PM
When people realise they have made a mistake or done something wrong they usually apologise. Is it ever appropriate to reject an apology?
I think in some circumstances it's acceptable to reject, maybe because the 'mistake' was absolutely terrible (like cheating on someone, or kidnapping someone's cat). Sometimes it's best just to give the person space to cool off.
It's possible to be left feeling unsatisfied when someone apologises to us. What do you expect from an apology?
Yes! Absolutely!!
I had high expectations for my team at work and one person ditched their duties leaving all of us to pick them up (I became so stressed....) and then all they say is sorry and give some crappy excuse. NOT HAPPY and defs not satisfied. The amount of stress and lies and excuses you have provided me with, you'll need to do better than that! SORRY! *needs more cats*
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:20 PM
@dreamcatcher I could dedicate a whole topic to complaining about work related complaints 😛 hehe luckily I get free movies where I work now.
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:22 PM
GUYS DONT BE SHY TO MIX THINGS UP WITH SOME PICTURES 😜 these cat ones are too good 😛
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originally posted on 06-07-2015 9:25 PM
"saying sorry and forgiveness involves being pretty self-aware. what are some of the ways that you know to build self-awareness & understanding"?
Thining about how I react to certain situations after they occur and work on improving my attitude.
