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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:48 PM
Love to see the conversation start to flow guys, keep it up! 
Next question!
4. What would you say to a friend who has just been diagnosed with an illness? And how it is important to act around them?
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:54 PM
What would you say to a friend who has just been diagnosed with an illness? And how it is important to act around them?
I think it's important to not judge them and take their needs into consideration. Asking them if they would like support or just some space could be really helpful to avoid causing tension between you.
Not treating them like they're 'fragile' or 'special' is also a good idea because some people can take offence when they're treated like that.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:57 PM
What would you say to a friend who has just been diagnosed with an illness? And how it is important to act around them?
Not sure eactly what I would say but I would try to be as empathetic and understanding as possible. In terms of how I would act I'd try to be there to help them whenever I could, but it would be super important to not over do it and make them feel like I thought they were not capable of being independant. Kindness and balance would be the big main things 🙂
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:58 PM
Next up!
5. Despite how much we try to help our friends, sometimes they may pick up some bad behaviours as coping mechanisms. What are some negative coping mechanisms people might adopt when dealing with illness?
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:02 PM
5. Despite how much we try to help our friends, sometimes they may pick up some bad behaviours as coping mechanisms. What are some negative coping mechanisms people might adopt when dealing with illness?
Some coping mechanisms for dealing with illness is withdrawing from friends or family... or maybe substance misuse. I know a few users also SH to cope.
These are negative coping mechanisms though because they can push people away, make you feel unsupported or might make your symptoms worse.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:01 PM
Despite how much we try to help our friends, sometimes they may pick up some bad behaviours as coping mechanisms. What are some negative coping mechanisms people might adopt when dealing with illness?
- Drugs
- Alcohol
- Smoking
- Negativity
- Violence
- Anger
- Isolation
- Self harm
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:04 PM
Despite how much we try to help our friends, sometimes they may pick up some bad behaviours as coping mechanisms. What are some negative coping mechanisms people might adopt when dealing with illness?
Well for me...
Letting my anger in unsafe or negative way
Self harm
I've turned to drugs a couple of times.
Withdrawing from friends/things I enjoy
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:03 PM
your answers to this question are all spot on!
gold stars for all.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:06 PM
So following from some of the negative behaviours,
6. What might be some healthier ways to manage a diagnosis or ongoing illness?
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:11 PM
What might be some healthier ways to manage a diagnosis or ongoing illness?
- Acceptance
- Writing down feelings
- Venting
- Meditation
- Talking about it
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:15 PM
awesome list @FootyFan26
what do you think @cat12345 @ErinsAntics?
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:59 PM
Q5.I think the worst thing someone can do is reject support and help from friends and family. Although that's probably a lot easier said than done!
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:56 PM
i think @FootyFan26 - sometimes when we find out someone is sick we start treating them like a whole different person. like they are going to break.
you're still you if you have an illness!
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:51 PM
4. What would you say to a friend who has just been diagnosed with an illness? And how it is important to act around them?
I think if someone has been diagnosed with an illness of any kind it's important to be non judgmental. it's also good to ask questions (if they are comfortable with it) and find out how you can support them.
You don't have to know about an illness to help someone! Just being there for them can help heaps.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:59 PM
I would try to make sure I'm controlling my facial expressions as there's nothing worse than receiving pity face from everyone. I would then try to be positive and find them some mentoring services where they can connect with people with the same condition/disease. I have multiple sclerosis and one of the most helpfu/productive things I did was attend some sessions at the MS society. It meant meeting other people with MS at different stages in life. It showed me that I could still have children, keep working, keep walking, get treatment and live a great life.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:04 PM
hey @wooli3 awesome answer and welcome to our chat. i'm glad to meet you and have you here with us tonight! how are you finding the getting real session so far?
what do you think of everyones answers and stories?
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:11 PM
Thanks @lanejane. It's comforting to read everyone's experiences, even though we're all dealing with different things.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:07 PM
It's great that you know the negative coping strategies that you turn too @j95. It's just trying to stop is the hard part.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:10 PM
true @FootyFan26 - the hard part is stopping.
but once you know you're in a heaps better position to make that decision to stop. and you can even plan ahead if you know what your negative coping mechanisms are.
We can all try some of these instead!
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:16 PM
@laurajane great list- Mark as New
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:13 PM
these are some cool links from ReachOut about positive coping skills to in response to question 6!
http://au.reachout.com/what-is-coping
http://au.reachout.com/building-better-coping-skills
Some that I use personally is: exercising and talking to a friend or psychologist
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:18 PM
My psych sent me this list of coping strategies... I did email him back and say half of them including "dancing with plants" were a bit stupid. But I think having a good laugh at the stupid ones are a distraction enough sometimes.http://www.recoveryourlife.com/index.php?categoryid=60&p2027_articleid=211
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:21 PM
OMG @j95
YOU HAVE JUST GIVEN ME THE BEST IDEA FROM THAT LINK
WE SHOULD HAVE A LIST OF COPING STRATEGIES ON RO... LIKE OUR 1,000,000 POSTS BUT 1,000,000 THINGS TO DO TO GET THROUGH STUFF.
one idea per post!
and we could go foreverrrrrrrr.
(or do we have this already?)
