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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:24 PM
@stonepixie 100% agree with all of those, especially the part about respect!
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:23 PM
Doesn't try to change or control you and vice versaMy entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:13 PM
@redhead Its awesome that you've had some solid role models in your life 🙂
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:12 PM
Hey @redhead - that's awesome you had positive influences through the people around you... Online Community Manager
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originally posted on 21-11-2014 5:00 PM
Trigger Warning: This is a heavy, confronting topic. Remember to look after your wellbeing!
Our world is filled with women. We have sisters, mothers, grandmothers and aunts. We have female teachers, female cashiers at Woolworths, female celebrities, female scientists, female doctors. We have female friends, female lovers and female frenemies. You might be female yourself – I am. Think about all of the women that you know and then think about this:
Information taken from ANROWS.org
In all honesty, I find these statistics incredibly disturbing as stand-alone figures. The situation only becomes more distressing when we must consider that much of this violence occurs in the context of relationships. It is often not strangers committing these terrible acts, but rather loved ones.
When we discuss these unhealthy relationships and violence against women, we must remember that violence no longer refers simply to physical acts. As a nation, we now also recognise the dreadful and long-lasting impact of emotional abuse – intimidation, manipulation and controlling behaviour. The blaming, the shaming, the fear, the humiliation, the domination.
Of all the women in the survey who had been victims of violence, 58% of them had never contacted the police despite a majority of them experiencing violence more than once. Perhaps even more frightening, 24% of these women never told anybody what they were suffering in their unhealthy relationships. The violence they experienced has likely remained unspoken of, unrecorded and unpunished.
In honour of White Ribbon Day, come join us on Monday the 24th of November, 8pm, where we will be raising our voices about the issue of violence against women. Together we’ll not only be learning about healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to identify early warning signs, but also how we can best support these women going through this dreadful ordeal.
If you or anyone you know are experiencing violence your relationships or general life, please consider seeking help. You can find a comprehensive list of support services (national and by state) here.
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:01 PM
Hey everyone, welcome to tonight’s Getting Real Session! Today, in honour of White Ribbon day, we’re going to be talking about violence against women and what we can do to stop it from happening.
Stress warning: tonight we're going to be making every effort to make this discussion as safe as possible, but if you have been affected by abuse in any form then please be aware that tonight's discussion might bring up unexpected emotions. We're focusing on prevention and solutions but take care of yourself as only you know best. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, one option is to log out and start a chat with 1800RESPECT who provide advice, counselling and support to anyone affected by abuse in Australia.
As usual, please do have a look at and keep in mind the community guidelines – particularly for tonight’s session keep in mind that we’re not a crisis or counselling service and that we’ll be focusing on prevention and solutions during tonight’s discussion. Please avoid descriptions of abusive situations and keep yourself anonymous, but if you feel like you need to take about detail I again encourage you to get in touch with a service like 1800RESPECT.
Time for the first question!
One of the first ways we can help to combat the issue of violence against women is to teach everyone from a young age about what makes up a healthy relationship. Did you ever get taught about this, and if so who from? (School, uni, friend, parent, your own research etc)
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:09 PM
Hey everyone! I might be coming and going tonight depending on how I get. I am a DV survivour.
One of the first ways we can help to combat the issue of violence against women is to teach everyone from a young age about what makes up a healthy relationship. Did you ever get taught about this, and if so who from? (School, uni, friend, parent, your own research etc)
I remember being taught about physically abusive relationships and such but was never really taught what makes a relationship unhealthy when it comes to emotional abuse. I was also taught that sexual assault is the result of an unknown attacker. Never was I taught about cohesion or any other form.
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:13 PM
Hey @stonepixie , thanks for joining us! That's totally fine, make sure you look after yourself!
I feel like a lot of people don't learn about emotional abuse and it tends to be overlooked a lot, so you're not alone in not knowing about it straight up.I definitely didn't know about it as early as I wish I did. Unfortunately, sometimes it feels like its something people don't find out about until after the fact, or after they have suffered through it for a long time.
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:20 PM
Yup I wanna remind everyone to look after themselves in this convo - especially if you have been affected or are a survivor of abuse... 1800RESPECT is just a click away...
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:23 PM
Here is the wheel of equality that domestic violence services to show what a healthy relationship looks like:
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:25 PM
@Sophie-RO What an awesome graphic, I don't think I've seen anything covers what makes up a healthy relationship that well before!
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:28 PM
@Chessca_H wrote:
@Sophie-RO What an awesome graphic, I don't think I've seen anything covers what makes up a healthy relationship that well before!
The "power and control wheel" is pretty well known tool to describe an abusive relationship and the equality wheel was made as the positive side...
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:30 PM
@Sophie-RO I just found the 'power and control wheel' on pinterest.Don't worry @KitKat it wasn't your fault. 🙂
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:19 PM
@KitKat I've only just learnt that part of what I went through 4 years ago was emotional abuse, but it explains my lack of trust and unwillingness to get involved in relationships.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:29 PM
Hey @stonepixie - it's really common for people to not realise what they went through/are going through is abuse.... Hope the acknowledgement will help you move forward... Online Community Manager
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:33 PM
@Sophie-RO it has definitely helped. It explains a lot, which makes it easier to process things.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:36 PM
@stonepixie it's great that you're finding ways to deal with what happened to you, I hope you're getting a lot of support in that 🙂
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:25 PM
Hey @stonepixie you have no idea how sorry I am to hear that. Definitely keep @Sophie-RO 's link in mind!
I learnt about it in a similar way - experiencing it first hand and learning about it afterwards. I found the support of my friends an amazing help during that time, even though many of them didn't know what was going on. If you do ever feel like you need someone to talk to about it, we're all here at Reach Out!
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:28 PM
@Sophie-RO Awesome graphic!
For me healthy relationships are a lot about respect and trust, and it has to go both ways. My partner has to be respectful and trusting towards me, but I also have to respect and trust them.
@stonepixie I really like that you added "takes you seriously". I think that's such a cool thing about relationships
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:11 PM
@stonepixie I had the same experience! Learned that there were other forms of abuse than physical so much later than anyone should
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:05 PM
Yay! Let's kick things off!
One of the first ways we can help to combat the issue of violence against women is to teach everyone from a young age about what makes up a healthy relationship. Did you ever get taught about this, and if so who from? (School, uni, friend, parent, your own research etc).
I always felt like I learn about the issue of violence against women really late in life. In my first year of university (I started off studying policing) they had the local police come in and talk about, particularly about unhealthy relationships. The stories they shared really blew my mind. I definitely wish I had learnt more about it in school though.
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:08 PM
@KitKat I definitely relate to learning about unhealthy relationships later in life, it wasn't something that really crossed my mind all that much until I started learning more about it when I went to uni
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:07 PM
Hi all! Well I think for me I didn't really start learning about the concept of a healthy relationship until university... I wish I learned earlier though... so many high school relationships could do with some better communication, trust and most importantly respect! The foundations of a healthy relationship! Online Community Manager
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:10 PM
@Sophie-RO That's so true about high-school relationships! For me, my high-school relationships were basically a "What not to do 101' for my future relationships, haha.
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originally posted on 24-11-2014 8:12 PM
@KitKat i reckon yr not alone there! Online Community Manager
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