originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:13 PM

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:21 PM

So you share these thoughts or feelings with someone else?  Who do you turn to for support when you're going through a rough time?

Not many people.  I've started turning to withdrawing which doesn't help at all and I need to change that, for now I don't really have anyone I have the guts to ask in person.  Something that definitely needs some work.

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:24 PM

Okay crew, let's help @Ben-RO and @FootyFan26 out here!

What are some things we can do to feel a bit more comfortable with talking about this stuff if that's what we want to do? 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:29 PM

What are some things we can do to feel a bit more comfortable with talking about this stuff if that's what we want to do?

I find that writing a letter/Facebook message is a lot less scary than talking about stuff face-to-face 🙂 interested to hear if other people have different coping strategies for this as it's something I struggle with

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:43 PM

What are some things we can do to feel a bit more comfortable with talking about this stuff if that's what we want to do?

• Thinking in advance about what we want to say and the key points we want to get across can help us feel more confident and ready to talk.
• If you've chosen to talk to someone, there's a reason you've chosen to talk and a reason you've chosen that person, so be confident in that. 
• Talking can be hard and overwhelming, so have something nice planned afterwards.
• Sometimes the people we are talking to want to fix everything or talk a lot or don't know what to do, so it can help the person you're talking to help you if you tell them what you are wanting from them and why you're telling them. 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:50 PM

Hmmm Something else i have just realised is I often feel more comfortable opening up to someone who opens up to me... it's like if they are comfortable sharing that stuff then i know we're can probably both share on that level. So maybe combining with @lokifish's strategy of sharing a little bit, you could share a bit as a way to see if they are comfortable with talking about stuff like that and then maybe share a bit more. @FootyFan26! You should read this bit of the conversation when you're online next mate! 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:55 PM

@Ben-RO I agree someone who opens up to you makes it easier. I think it also helps with trust and building the relationship when both people feel able to open up otherwise it can be a bit one sided and draining. This obviously applies more to friendship type relationships than professionals who or treating us or someone older we are seeking wisdom from. 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:00 PM

Ooh I was the 100th post on this thread! My perfectionism likes this! 

What are some things we can learn from bad experiences?

There is so much we can learn. I think bad experiences are often the things that allow us to grow the most and learn the most about ourselves. Bad experiences help us learn how to better handle the tough times and things we can do to try and stop things getting so bad. It's so often said, but it's really true we learn from our mistakes, although obviously a lot of our bad experiences aren't our mistakes. I definitely think I'm a stronger, more resilent and more empathetic person because of my own bad experiences. 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:04 PM

@Randomness totally off topic but I'm glad I'm not the only one who's obsessed with even numbers 😛 (multiples of five are okay, but seven or nine make me crazy haha)

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:02 PM

@Ben-RO Awesome word! I'm adding craptastic to my vocabulary! 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:03 PM

Haha it is one of my favourite pretend words that i made up @Randomness 😛 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:04 PM

Oh gee it's 10! At least where i am on the planet. 

That wraps up the live part of our session! As always feel free to keep chatting, asking questions or exploring this topic whenever you want to, but for me at least, it's sleep time! 

Thanks everybody!!!!

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:06 PM

Thanks for an awesome discussion tonight peeps! I'll have to have a read of the earlier posts in the morning 🙂

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:05 PM

Awesome chat tonight. Goodnight everyone! Have a great week

originally posted on 24-10-2016 10:05 PM

P.s gosh that was a good chat! 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:58 PM

As always, my answer can be summed up with a Winnie the Pooh quote 😛

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:54 PM

That makes a lot of sense @Ben-RO. I think it's good to test the waters, and maybe say, 'What do you think about this thing?' Or, 'Have you had experience with this thing?' Instead of 'I'm struggling with this thing PLS HALP!' That you you can guage if they're going to be understanding or if you would be comfortable sharing more with them.

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:57 PM

What are some things we can learn from bad experiences?

How to better deal with them and manage how your feeling based on experiences. Maybe how to avoid bad experiences too, but I think it's also easy to get caught up in avoiding them too much and get back into that spiral.

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:59 PM

What are some things we can learn from bad experiences?

While bad experiences are pretty craptastic the skills you develop in the process of overcoming them are super powerful and can help with pretty much all the challenges life can throw at you. 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:53 PM

@Ben-RO That's another good strategy 🙂 however I think it can sometimes backfire because you hear them open up and think "their problems are so much worse than mine, they're going to think mine are pathetic". Or maybe it's just my brain that does that

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:54 PM

Hmm @lokifish that's definitely not just you that does that! 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:51 PM

Well if we all type really really quickly, we have time for one more question! 

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:26 PM

@lokifish! Hey, good to see you! Kind of. What's the equivalent of 'good to see you' in internet terms...

originally posted on 24-10-2016 9:17 PM

So you share these thoughts or feelings with someone else?  Who do you turn to for support when you're going through a rough time?

Either my friend, or the internet (namely here :D). It's just good to talk about it with people you can trust as validation or support.