Express yourself
Thanks,
Yeah me to, i was always in the habit of saying, 'good thanks, how are you?' , but just lately when i've really been feeling low and like i don't wanna lie but i don't want to, you know, give them all my problems haha. I guess just needa pick what you say to who.
Wow, you guys have so many great thoughts, there's so much to read!
So we know how we can express our thoughts but...Are their times when you think that it's unhelpful to express your thoughts? Or is it always important?
Good question..
I dunno i guess we have to be conscious when we are, particularly when we're talking with others because we don't want to be overpowering or selfish etc. but yeah its still important to share your feelings and lighten the load when your talking.
i suppose if you find a balance and what is good for you and those around you ?
@faithelise wrote:
Good question..
I dunno i guess we have to be conscious when we are, particularly when we're talking with others because we don't want to be overpowering or selfish etc. but yeah its still important to share your feelings and lighten the load when your talking.
i suppose if you find a balance and what is good for you and those around you ?
That's a really good point. One of my friends and I call it the two-way street approach. That is I can share what's on my mind as long as I listen to her too.
i think its admirable seeing all the ways people express themselves,
i find when i journal, i write pages and pages- so when i sit down (or rather before bed) to write i take forever, so that puts me off sometimes ha but it shouldn't.
does anyone else find it hard to express oneself to others?
@faithelise wrote:
i think its admirable seeing all the ways people express themselves,
i find when i journal, i write pages and pages- so when i sit down (or rather before bed) to write i take forever, so that puts me off sometimes ha but it shouldn't.
does anyone else find it hard to express oneself to others?
Yes I can find it very hard to express my self to others it takes me a while to be able to express how I am feeling to others. I find it helpful to write or draw to express how I am feeling.
How do you prefer to express what you are thinking? Talking, writing, drawing, singing or something else entirely?
Talking, writing or singing work best for me.
this is my first time on a forum... 🙂
to the first question- yes i totally get what everyone feels! When you really want to say something but it just doesn't come out in time before others get to it or the teacher moves on...
Also lately i've been feeling i've been dodging personal questions so much! when people ask me how i am or anything i just try and dodge my way out of it and go on to the next person...
And to the 2nd question- I try to write in a journal etc. , but i've always liked scrapbooking too- so maybe i can pick that up again and just express myself in one
@faithelise wrote:
this is my first time on a forum... 🙂
to the first question- yes i totally get what everyone feels! When you really want to say something but it just doesn't come out in time before others get to it or the teacher moves on...
Also lately i've been feeling i've been dodging personal questions so much! when people ask me how i am or anything i just try and dodge my way out of it and go on to the next person...
And to the 2nd question- I try to write in a journal etc. , but i've always liked scrapbooking too- so maybe i can pick that up again and just express myself in one
Hey faithelise! 🙂 We're a fairly nice bunch here so I hope your first forum experience is a positive one.
It can be so annoying when that happens. Or when you knew what you wanted to say but ehn your mind goes black just when you go to say it! Personal questions can be scary to answer sometimes so you're definitely not alone with that.
Oooh, scrapbooking, that sounds like fun. Do you use lots of pictures and markers, etc? Do you use quotes?
@Sophie-RO wrote:
Hey faithelise! Glad you could join us! Sometimes it's pretty to just say "I'm fine thanks" even if that's not really the case... and yea scrap booking and journaling can be good ways of getting things out!
I always the use "I'm fine" quote when I am not fine at all I think that I use it so I don't have to express how I feel and don't have to answer any more questions though a lot of friends have picked up on it. I really hate when you go shopping and the shop assitant asks "How are you?" even when your really down you answer "good".
@Rainbow wrote:
*my persona changes when the teacher is there haha! Clearly I'm feeling the spotlight now *blushes*
No need to feel in the spotlight 🙂 No judgement here at all :)... My personal changes when the teacher is there. But like Sophie said as well I am different around each different group as well. I am really mature around study, Family etc but when it comes to friends I can become pretty inmature to a certain level I guess it more having fun though 🙂
@Sophie-RO wrote:
Hey Rainbow! I think we all change our persona a little bit depending on the situation we are in. Yr not alone there I don't think. Can anyone else relate? I know I have a work-self, family-self, close friends-self, room full of strangers-self etc etc!
Yes! I tend to change how I present myself with different people. I've even had it pointed out to me before!
@Rainbow wrote:
Yes at uni I find my persona changes as I feel I am being watched and judged haha
Welcome to the discussion Rainbow! 🙂
Hey everyone and welcome to tonight's Getting Real session on expressing your thoughts. Expressing thoughts can be tough sometimes, especially to other people. So tonight we're going to be discussing how we share our thoughts and what benefits this might have. It will be facilitated by Sophie, Cheekyone and myself.
If you feel upset at all during the discussion remember that there are people you can talk to. See the emergency Help tab in the top right corner of this page (the yellow one). Also keep the Community Guidelines in mind so that we can keep the discussion on track and useful for everyone. 🙂
The first question is: Have you ever been put on the spot and had something crystal clear in your head but just unable to say it? What happened?
Have you ever been put on the spot and had something crystal clear in your head but just unable to say it? What happened?
This used to happen to me all the time in school and uni... And even now sometimes in public speaking...
Hey guys!
Have you ever been put on the spot and had something crystal clear in your head but just unable to say it? What happened?
I can't think of anything specific, but like Soph it happens to me a lot at uni. Sometimes I'm just too nervous to say something in case it's wrong. Or in group discussions for assignments I'n scared to say something to disagree in case it doesn't go down top well! It has happened to me help-seeking situations too though, and I have just not said something because I didn't want to have to explain it.
@delicatedreamer wrote:
Hey guys!
Have you ever been put on the spot and had something crystal clear in your head but just unable to say it? What happened?
I can't think of anything specific, but like Soph it happens to me a lot at uni. Sometimes I'm just too nervous to say something in case it's wrong. Or in group discussions for assignments I'n scared to say something to disagree in case it doesn't go down top well! It has happened to me help-seeking situations too though, and I have just not said something because I didn't want to have to explain it.
Hi DD, welcome! 🙂
Ditto! It can be daunting to share your thoughts when you don't know if you'll be right. Although when you do attempt it there can be the benefits of being corrected and learning things so you don't make the mistake again.
It can be really hard when you don't know how people will take something, can't it? I know the feeling well and I think lots of people have experienced it at some point.
@Sophie-RO wrote:
Have you ever been put on the spot and had something crystal clear in your head but just unable to say it? What happened?
This used to happen to me all the time in school and uni... And even now sometimes in public speaking...
I can definitely identify with this! I used to have trouble in tutorials at uni where I knew what I wanted to say but getting it into words was difficult. I think I just ended up mumbling something before the teacher asked someone else. Rather embarrasing!
