fathers day not my favourite
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Long story short. No. Haha.....
sorry about the essay 😕
@j95 thank you for sharing your feelings about father's day with us, I had the same feelings prior to my forgiving my dad for all the hurt and suffering he had caused me.
My feelings carried through each special day birthdays, father's day, x-mas etc, but I put on a brave face in front of my family, but inside I was basically just falling apart, having a feeling of not knowing how to feel about him or even having the thoughts of just being around him everyday was a constant nightmare. It is so hard when you have someone in your life that is suppose to love and protect you from violence and other issues we face eveyday in our lives, but they are the ones actually hurting us and not protecting us from this behaviour, and especially when everytime something happens you blame yourself for their actions always wondering what you did wrong to deserve this hurt in your life. ( i dont know if this is how you feel or felt but I know I did)
Considering that your father's loss is still playing a big part in your life at present as grief does because although they were never a father figure to you, they were still your father as much as you hate that about him but whenever you lose someone in your family whether you like them or not you still need to allow yourself to grieve for his loss to enable peace in your life and future.
I know that awhile we spoke about your father you stated you had written a letter but that you felt stupid for writing it, writing is a very therapedic way of expressing our feelings and can also at times help us solve issues relating to our problem as we are writing things down, one of the rewarding things is being able to write you story and read it out loud to yourself which can enable you to take hwo you feel and can also feel like you talking to someone else as well.
Please dont be too hard on yourself, you've come so far on your journey
I completely understand as to why you would feel like this, and by completely understand, I actually have no idea as to what you feel like, but understand that it is a natural response for someone who has gone through what you have.
Is there anyone you consider as a father figure? It could be anyone in your life.
I hope everyone here manages to have a good night and love the positivity of this thread. I miss my dad moving out of home is difficult. We can all get through this 🙂
even though eveything I had was taken from me by my father, I am really proud to still call him my dad because after I only have one. For such a long time after the hurt and pain I have suffered and still suffer I never thought it possible to be able to think in the way I do now, but as hard as it is I forgave my dad for everything and never have mentioned anything to him about what happened how ever it is something always in the fore front of my mind, to allow myself to heal and recover i had to accept this change so I could move forward with my life.
And sitting here thinking of everything that I have lost because of what I suffered at his hands eg. my job, my house, my childhood, my life, my family. when you have lost this much its not easy but I wouldnt change him for anything.
Wow @Sap0! That's great you've managed to forgive your father despite everything he's done and look at things so positively! I was really inspired reading your post! 
@Randomness Im so happy you found my story inspiring and really shows that no matter what you've been through in life, can be overcome for a positive future.
although now I have an addiction to assist in coping with my trauma because I can no longer bear to sleep of a night time, and am lucky to get 1.5-2 hrs sleep a week.
lunch with girlfriends family, just having a break from it all, so manypeople can be really overwhelming at times, let alone fathers day.
hey @j95
i've noticed in some of the other posts/chats that you're really good at practicing self care when you need to. remember to do that today and if you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed by anything, just step outside or into the bathroom and take five minutes to yourself.
do you have internet on your phone or anything? you can always take a quick RO forum break too to speak to us too
So far Father's Day is going horribly in my house. Dad moved some things around yesterday to vacuum, and mum couldn't find his card because of it. Things have gone reaaaally over-the-top since then...
I'm okay though and am taking care of myself 🙂 Hopefully everyone else's days are going better than mine.
