Bisexual with Really Homophobic Parents
Well, the title's pretty self explanatory. But my parents are legit the most homophobic and cruel parents there are out there (as in to the LGTBQ community+, not specifically to me). If I were to come out, they would probably disown me. It seems like an irrational fear, but it's literally not. My parents HATE LGBTQ+, so much that they once emailed a news company for "supporting" gays and that "all gays and bisexuals should drop dead, and then their dead bodies should be thrown off this earth, they are so disgusting." See, not that irrational. I have severe anxiety and this is not helping it at all (my parents also think my anxiety is "fake" and "a drama". My anxiety is so severe that a psychologist I once talked to in secret gasped and told me it was almost impossible for me to not have commit suicide yet, as I did not have any help from medications or any caring friends or family.), so I was wondering if anyone had any ways to help me cope?
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My dad is pretty cool with the LGBT, even told about this theory where the reason people are gay or lesbian is because their genetics are too good to be reproduced with other people. That's why they're gay or lesbian in order to push them away from reproduction.
My mother however...I have two gay uncles and they both came out to her first. Apparently she was really helpful and fully supported them. But she thinks that bisexual and pansexual people are indecisive, attention seeking whores who don't deserve a place in the LGBT community. I haven't come out to either of them but I have come out to quite a few friends.
I also had depression a few years back and attempted suicide once. Instead of helping me, she ridiculed me and scolded me then grounded me and embarrassed me in public. My dad, as great as he is, doesn't like to argue with her and wants to present our family as strong and unified.
The only way I coped and am still coping is doing small things that I love. Examples being, reading my favourite books, doing really well on tests in my favourite subjects at school, starting debates with my friends and teachers and, occasionally when I feel brave enough, singing out in public with my friends. Another thing she does is put me down about my love for singing as she tells me I have a terrible voice. Whether this is true or not, it's impossible for me to know as my self-esteem is so low that any work I produce, no matter how good, always looks like a disappointment.
But I always tell myself things will get better. And if they don't, then I will make them better.
That's my take on it. I hope you're doing ok now, suicide (as I now know) is definitely not the answer.
@IIDiamondGirlII wow thanks for sharing all of that with us - what a challenging situation you're in 
You've got so many good things up your sleeve to do to stay positive, and to look after yourself. So much insight and resilience 
@AverageFreakshow I'm so sorry to hear your parents are so unsupportive, it really isn't fair. Well done for reaching out, to a psychologist, and here on the forums. You're stronger than you probably realise!
@gina-RO Yeah it took me a while to work up the courage to reply but I'm glad I did. It's pretty tough but one thing that I did inherit from my dad's side of the family is extreme stubbornness XD.
It's really hard, especially since I'm pretty much in the closet to 98% of the people who know me and that prevents me from going to any LGBT clubs or meetings or anything. I don't really have any friends who understand so I thought I'd get on a forum and see if anyone had a similar problem. Looks like I made a good decision 
@AverageFreakshow Super well done at jumping on here to seek support, we have a lot of bisexual people on the forums who have gone through similar I truly hope you seek some different perspective's here. So sorry your parent's are homophobic, and extremely so by the sound of it 😞 Homophobia is really just a form of fear. So when you see your parents behave in this way please remember it stems from a fear of themselves, and that there is nothing wrong with LGBTQI.
Do you feel it's so severe that they would kick you out of home etc? It is super important you are safe first of all. Do you have any friends who know that you are bisexual? Sometime's coming out to a friend first is really helpful, and can be quite empowering. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being bisexual, in fact it is awesome. I definitely want to recommend QLife, they have web-chat available and phone. I will also tag some other members to try and help you with their own perspectives on the situation 🙂
@redhead @roseisnotaplant @scared01
hi @AverageFreakshow im sorry that your parents arent supportive of this. im not really sure how to help in this situation however i will support you the best i can.
Qlife is awesome i use them aswell
good luck and looking forward to hearing how your getting on!
