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It's all too much

I've been very depressed lately and self harming. Recently my brother took his life, I really miss him and wish I could hug him, so due to him passing I'm now moving states but I dont want too as the person who stopped be front wanting to do what my brother did lives here. My sister and her baby are here and I wang to see him grow up. 

 

I have adhd and am unmedicated which is also causing stress as I'm struggling to focus so much and also I may have bpd or bipolar and trying to get into a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis is so hard. 

 

To top it off barely anyone talks to me and I feel so alone, I do try to make friends but apparently I'm so unlikeable. 

 

 

 

 

Stardust_
Stardust_Posted 09-06-2022 12:38 AM

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cloudgreen
cloudgreenPosted 12-06-2022 01:25 PM

Hey @Stardust_ It has been a couple days and I wanted to check in to see how you were doing? How has the moving process been? I hope you have been able to take some time out of your day during this busy time to do something nice for yourself 🤗

 
 
Stardust_
Stardust_Posted 15-06-2022 04:10 PM
Still trying to find a house, so many people are looking too so fingers
crossed we get one before next week
 
 
 
cloudgreen
cloudgreenPosted 15-06-2022 10:12 PM

My fingers are crossed for you 🤞 How have you been in the new state so far? I know you may not feel settled in yet as you haven't settled into a house, but are you enjoying the new state/area you are in or the process of looking for a house?

 
ayrc_1904
ayrc_1904Posted 10-06-2022 11:41 PM

Hey @Stardust_❤️

 

Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear about your brother's passing, and I want to send my deepest condolences. It must be really tough on you right now as you go through grieving. I can't imagine the emotions you must be feeling right now. 

 

Secondly, thank you for telling us you're safe and also for sharing what you're going through at the moment. Moving to a new place can definitely be scary, especially at the beginning. But I guess any type of 'change' is always a little scary because there are more 'unknowns'. I also agree with the others in that maybe you can think of it as a 'fresh start' to get a mental reset. At the same time, I think it's also good to allow yourself to feel sad and let those emotions out whilst making sure you have help and support available from friends, family, or professionals. 

 

How is the move going so far? Do you think you would be able to schedule a day soon to just relax and do something to look after yourself? Let us know how everything goes 

 
Anzelmo
AnzelmoPosted 10-06-2022 11:36 PM

Hi @Stardust_

 

There are no words to express how hard things must have been going for you lately and I hope you have been safe and finding some comfort. The forums are here for you and we hope you are getting by during these difficult times. I just wanted to see how you were and how you have found things lately.

 

Have you settled in with your move?

 
 
Stardust_
Stardust_Posted 11-06-2022 09:54 AM

We're actually staying at a cabin in a caravan park as we don't actually have a house quite yet but the cabin isn't too bad

 
niawithluv
niawithluvPosted 10-06-2022 05:51 PM

Oh gosh, @Stardust_

 

I would like to say that I'm extremely sorry that you're going through this and I can assure you that you are not alone at all. From reading this, I can definitely see that you are going through a lot and are, naturally, feeling overwhelmed with it all. I would also like to express my deepest condolences for the passing of your brother. I simply cannot begin to fathom the grief and sadness you are experiencing but everyone here on the forums will be here to support you during this time ❤️

 

In regards to your moving situation, I can totally understand how hard it must be to leave, especially when you have such strong connections to the place but perhaps it might be helpful to view this in a positive light? The move can be the fresh start you need to heal and focus on yourself and your mental health. Additionally, as @/cloudgreen said, the move may be the perfect opportunity for you to meet new people, make new friends and perhaps even find some new interests. I have struggled with both making new friends and moving to a new place so I can understand how daunting all of this is but taking things one day at a time and doing my best to think through things positively were definitely strategies that made things easier. 

 

I just saw your reply regarding the situation and I'm super relieved that you are safe! I also wish that your move has gone smoothly and that you are able to adapt easily. 

 

Kind regards, 

niawithluv x 

 
cloudgreen
cloudgreenPosted 09-06-2022 03:48 PM

Hi @Stardust_

If I can also say that i'd like to acknowledge how brave you are for sharing how you are feeling with us today.

 

I saw that you are moving today and the move is making you sad, is there anything nice that you can do for yourself today or within the next couple days? Whether that be some me-time, tv/movie or some kind of activity?

You mention that you have tried to make friends, do you think with the move you will have a chance to meet new people and make some new friends? I can assure you that you are not unlikeable! Making friends is hard, I know myself I have struggled in the past but have just kept trying to reach out to new people when I have the opportunity to do so, and eventually you find some people that you click with!

I also wanted to mention that if you are wanting some one on one support that eheadspace is a great place to go for online chat or phone support. There is also a post on self-help for self-harm that I will link here.

 

We will always be here to support you 🧡

 

 
Bre-RO
Bre-ROPosted 09-06-2022 12:06 PM

Hey, there @Stardust_ thank you for seeking this community out and sharing what's been going on for you. Firstly, I'd like to express my sadness and condolences for your brother's passing. I can imagine that the pain and grief you're experiencing is enormous. If it helps to share your grief with us, please know this is a safe space to talk about it. How are you feeling today? 

 

You mentioned that lately, you've self-harmed, and I'd like to commend you for opening up about that. The online community is also a safe space to talk about self-harm, and we have some guidelines about how we do that safely. Part of that is letting the community know that you're safe when discussing self-harm. It's a tricky thing to navigate online, so we've put together some resources to help check them out when you're in the right headspace 😊 

 

It sounds like you're in a time in your life where having as much support as possible is extra important. I can see why you're feeling stressed, especially since you're preparing for an interstate move from important people in your life 😪 throw on trying to get help with adhd and a diagnosis. That's a lot to juggle on top of grieving and day-to-day life - so I want to acknowledge the fight, resourcefulness and resilience it takes to get through each day when things are so hard. 

 

I'm glad you're part of this community, and I hope spending time here helps you feel less alone. I'm going to check in via email, so keep an eye out for that when you get a chance. 

 
 
Stardust_
Stardust_Posted 09-06-2022 12:24 PM

Today I'm nervous as today's the day I'm moving, I feel sad leaving everyone behind. 

Oh I am safe re the sh and have been clean for about a week. 

 
 
 
Bre-RO
Bre-ROPosted 09-06-2022 04:06 PM

Gosh, that is nerve-racking @Stardust_

 

Moving house/location is hard in the best of times. This move sounds pretty emotional, and I don't blame you for feeling nervous today. Do you have an idea of when you'll have some free time to do something rejuvenating? It's so physically challenging to move all your stuff + deal with all the emotions resulting from moving 😫 what kinda things do you do to feel better/have fun/relax? 

 

Thank you for letting us know you're safe. Would you be interested in me sending some threads that might be helpful based on some of what you've shared? 

 

I said it before, but I think it's very good that you're part of the community at a time when you're going through change and grief. Some people find it helpful to share what's going on, and others like to spend time on more casual threads as a distraction + way to connect with others. 

 

P.S 

I've responded to your email 😊

 
 
Stardust_
Stardust_Posted 09-06-2022 12:23 PM

Today I'm nervous as today's the day I'm moving, I feel sad leaving everyone behind. 

 

Oh I am safe re the sh and have been clean for about a week. 

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