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Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia & I need help

Hi Everyone,

 

Im a generally anxious person and its getting worse as I get older and become more aware of the things & mainly the dangers around me. I feel anxious in the car with people and i dont trust the and I constantly am assesing there health and there driving, speed & how close to the next car they are or if they are going to ram into the car in front, if i hear a plane at night go over my house the first thing i think is bomb. These are only a few of many general anxieties i have but a particualr fear is causing me a imense amount of trouble. I have a fear of spiders and it has always been bad but lately its gotten to the point where I cant sleep & im scared to sleep and turn the light off & sometimes I cant stop crying I sit up during the day time worrying about and dreeding when im going to have to go to sleep.

 

My room is prone to spiders I find at least 1 usually multiple a day in my room & thats only the ones I can see I have had white tail spiders fall on me while i sleep and crawl up my leg on the couch I have more of an issue with them at night. Everynight without fail I will shine a flash light under the bed and do a inspection of the underneath and floor of my room then I remove the sheets and clear the bed I shake out the sheet and quilt then I shine the flash light behind the bed throughly checking for spiders then I will check behind every piece of furniture and i will check the walls for any dots or marks etc to make sure they arnt spiders then I shake out the sheets and make the bed then i repeat the bit with the flash light. I will sit with my light on for at least 30 min to make sure i can see any new ones that come out of hiding then i turn the light off & even after this I am paramoid and fearful and I cant make the anxiety stop. Even just sitting in my room makes me anxious I can feel what feels like lots of tiny spiders and bugs in my hair running around and feel them running all over my body. I cant sleep & im paranoid and panicy and cry.

 

When im asleep i cant protect myself I am defenceless and not in control i ususally do the flash ligth check thing multiple times a night. Every dot or mark on a wall every bit of dust fills me with the fear and I cant take it I cant sleep and all i want to do is cry I dont know what to do logically I know that they probably wont hurt me & that no one in Australia has died of a spider bite in decades but If i get bitten in my sleep and I dont know i could die. I feel like they are falling onto my neck and back and head from webs as i write this I cant deal with this anymore I dont know what to do my family get mad when i make a big deal out of the spiders I sleep with a shoes and a can of one shot spider spray onmy bed side table I even keep my air con vents shut so they cant get in that way. I really dont know what to do I should like a baby.

 

Please help me the thought of having to sleep tonignt is unbearbale.

 

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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia & I need help

Hi @Alec29

 

I am not sure how exactly how to help you. How about buying those mosquito nets than hang over your bed? For the bed itself get some double sideded tapes and tape the edges of the matress and also the legs of the bed.

 

The nets should stop anything falling onto you and the double sided tapes will stick the spiders if they try to come up the bed.

 

In any case are you seeking help with this phobia?

 

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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia & I need help

Hi @Alec29, it sounds like you are going through a really tough time - I hear how scary that must be for you Smiley Sad Were you able to get any sleep last night?

Also are you getting support from anyone at the moment?
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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia & I need help

Hey @Alec29 it sounds like there is a lot going on for you at the moment, and these feelings of fear and worry seem overwhelming.

 

Thinking of you - how are you doing today?

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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia & I need help

I’m having this exact same problem. Everything you’re going through is the same thing I am. Last night I found 4 spiders and I killed 2 after 3 hours of hysteria and I found one of the 4 in my bed tonight and now I’m too afraid to sleep. I don’t know what to do anymore 😭

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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia & I need help

Hi @alybear040318 , that sounds super upsetting for you, has your fear of spiders been getting worse lately, or is this something that's been a problem for awhile for you? Have you ever tried chatting to a psychologist about these fears at all? 

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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia

It’s always been pretty bad. I don’t even know what started it honestly. It’s gotten a lot worse though. And no, I haven’t talked to anyone about it because I don’t normally have any time and no one really listens to me about it and is willing to help me get help.

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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia

Hi @alybear040318, I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling with this. When you say you haven't talked to anyone, does this include family and friends or are you referring to health professionals? The first step to getting help is reaching out just like you have done today. The next step could be to reach out to your local GP. They will be able to consider any appropriate treatments or supports that you may need to get through this Smiley Happy We are always here to listen if you want to share more.
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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia

I’ve tried talking to family but they just tell me that I’m too paranoid and that I need to brush it off, and I can’t really see a therapist because no one will help me get one around here

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Re: Im to scared and anxious to sleep and I cant stop the paranoia

Hey @alybear040318 , I'm so sorry to hear that your family weren't very supportive when you told them about your fears. The good news is that there is definitely help available for these kinds of fears - I think @Taylor-RO 's suggestion of having a chat to a GP about it is a good one, do you have a GP that you think you could talk to about this? 

 

If you don't think you'll be able to see a therapist where you are, eHeadspace could be a good option for you - have you heard of them at all? You can connect with them online, for free one to one counselling with a clinician, you can check that out here if you think it could be helpful. 

 

Another resource that could be helpful is MoodGym-

they have online modules that can help a lot with working through phobias that are really practical, and evidence based. It's completely confidential and it's all online, so your family don't need to know about it if you're not comfortable chatting about it with them. 

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