Everyone on this thread has given some pretty great suggestions. With approaching others, I think that the more you do it, the easier it gets. The biggest thing that helped for me was probably doing a lot of volunteering involving fundraising and approaching people. I sort of got used to the rejection (which there can be a lot of) and it made going up to people a bit less scary (although I still do get nervous!). It was also helpful to have a purpose I'm passionate about (e.g. raising awareness or raising funds for a charity), so that there was something I could focus on and talk about.
Before class, maybe you could try coming up to someone who isn't busy, say 'hi' and introduce yourself. For me, I'd probably then ask them something general like what they're studying or what they think about the class. And the conversation can flow from there, like a give and take. If it gets a bit awkward and you're not sure what to talk about next, asking questions to learn more about the other person and the things they like can help the conversation go on. If things don't work out well the first time, that's okay! There are so many others you could talk to and practice helps. So what are your thoughts on this?
Hey! Welcome to ReachOut I completely understand how you're feeling, and I agree it's not the best feeling to experience. Sorry to hear you're feeling upset It's important to realise all of the gerat qualities that you have and can bring to others in your life. Even if you go out and network and meet new people you can always add value to their lives! Unfortunately we can't always be 100% positive everyday, so it's important to acknowledge the bad days and be kinder to yourself. Those bad thoughts are just that. Thoughts. Try your best to stay active socially, regardless of what your mind tells you and see how you go
I know exactly how you feel.. I'm a 20-year-old guy at university. I'm a good looking guy but I've had a lot of social anxiety and depression in the past. After about 4 years of feeling like that, I attempted suicide in January of this year. Therapy and antidepressants have been helpful since then.
I go on to websites like tinder and look for literally anyone to feel close to. If you met me IRL, you would have no idea I'm like this.
Hey @CookieDough, that is a really important thing to point out. Mental health problems do not discriminate whether you are wealthy, attractive or successful. Sometimes people forget all about this but you can never know what is going on for someone. I am glad you have found some things helpful in dealing with all of this. We are here to listen . As another user mentioned, feel welcome to post your own thread!
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