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TW: My best friend propositioned me
Maybe I’m making a mountain out of a molehill, but two days ago, my best friend set me a dare. I had to guess what colour he was thinking of and if I got it wrong, I had to engage in a sexual act. I guessed wrong and I told him that I wasn’t comfortable with engaging in a sexual act (he already knew this). Even though he agreed that I had made it a point before, I still feel uncomfortable. Is this normal?
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Hello @waddlet , I am sorry to hear about what has happened and how you felt uncomfortable in this interaction with your friend. It is understandable that you were left feeling uncomfortable after your friend suggested you do something that you do not feel comfortable with. Have you been able to talk to anyone about what has happened and how you are feeling? Also, just wanted to let you know that I will be sending you an email shortly 😊.
I'm not sure how old you are but to be honest age doesn't really matter with this. No one should be asking someone to do things like this. Like its probably a bit different if you're in a relationship with someone but idk even then you should NEVER be made to feel uncomfortable like this and I'm so sorry he said that to you. It's great you were able to talk to your cousin about this, and your dad. How are you feeling after talking it through with them?
Hey,
Sorry for the late reply. Even after my friend and I made up, my dad still doesn't quite trust my friend and it's been months.
Yep it's awkward. But maybe it's for the best though, cos my friend has mentioned on quite a few occasions that he wants to see me drunk and I just don't drink because I don't like the taste. Point being, my parents say they're glad I'm making this decision because they say he might not have my best interests at heart.
Hey @waddlet I hope it's okay if I jump in here 🙂
I've been reading through your thread, and I agree with what has been said here already - I can understand why you'd be feeling uncomfortable.
I thought it might be helpful to share some articles that relate to your situation. This one talks about some of the things you mentioned about being pressured into doing something you don't want to.
Pressure to be with someone sexually isn't okay, and this article talks about consent.
I hope they are helpful - please feel free to chat more about this with us if you need to!
Hey @waddlet
You're definitely not making a mountain out of a molehill.
It sounds like your intuition has been kicking in and that something is not right. It's great that you are following up on that and asking for help. If something doesn't feel right it's always helpful to get a second opinion and ask a friend or family member what they think.
Second that with what @MB95 has mentioned. A real friend won't make you uncomfortable or pressure you like that. It sounds like your friend was pushing your boundaries and acting really inappropriate.
I am really proud that you are recognising the need for good friends and for taking all right the steps to allow postive people in your life.
You sound like a caring friend and you deserve to have trustworthy reliable friendships.
Please continue to keep us updated.