Whats wrong with me?
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Hi @Ladida , I can also pretty heavily relate to a lot of the things you mentioned! @ElleBelle Has some pretty awesome suggestions. Let us know if you get a chance to check them out 🙂
You are definitely not a weak person, and I can tell that purely because you've had the strength and courage to come here and reach out to us. I think it would be worth having a chat with a professional counsellor or psychologist, it sounds like you have a pretty negative baseline of thought at the moment, and talking through this with someone and learning the techniques required to take control over your own thoughts can definitely help (I know it did for me!).
If you feel like your life is stagnating maybe you should try doing something entirely new, like take up a new sport, hobby or instrument or join a club or gym, this could also be a great way to make new connections with people 🙂
Hi and Welcome @Ladida
You covered a lot of things.
Stay strong and keep fighting.
Things will always forever change. Good times will come.
Things you want to improve you can work on. And you will get better at it. Remember it takes time.
Learn to be strong on your own so you dont count on others. Be comfortable in your own skin. Other people arent perfect.
I really like you looking after you parents. Remember if you need your alone time, take it. Look after yourself before you can look after others.
Take care and hugs.
Hey @Ladida 🙂 Your post sounds like it could've been written by me at any point in the last couple of years! I can relate to most of what you are going through, especially the parts about lacking motivation and feeling lonely/exhausted. It's really difficult to get older and not feel like you have everything together, especially when you fall into the trap of comparing yourself to people around you (who are probably going through their own crap, but hiding it better!) You're definitely not alone in feeling like this.
I think changing the way you frame thoughts is an effective way to move forward and feel better. Have you heard of negative self-talk? It can be so ingrained sometimes that it's hard to bust out of, but if you start small - maybe just one thing a day or using one of our threads like Turning Negatives Into Positives, it's a good start. Emotional strength is a bit like physical strength, it takes a bit of work to improve - but it is possible! In the meantime I hope you can be as kind to yourself as you are to other people in your life and take time to do things you enjoy and that make you feel good 🙂
