I lost a friendship, over another friend, feeling really upset

hey @Cheeseburger It's been a few days, how are you feeling now? 

Have you talked to your friend as @scared01 suggested?

Let us know xx

Hey @scared01 I tried talking to them when they left me but all o got was abuse from them...💔😢😭, I’m trying to get past it but it’s hard honestly.

The other day I wanted to just give up, I still do a little as it’s getting harder, and I’m getting a lot of hate for being Pansexual😢

Hey @lennycat2017 no I haven’t talked to my friend, as I found out that they were only using me.... I’ve been struggling a lot I’m lost without this friend, but I’m trying to keep strong. I have my bf and my family to keep me strong

Hi @Cheeseburger! I'm really sorry to hear you had that experience. Rejection can be physically painful. I have had similar experiences where people have used me and then turned on me, making out like it's my fault. I still get angry about these experiences because I did heaps for them and didn't feel appreciated in return. In life, there will always be difficult people like that.

I think it was a brave and mature thing for you to try to talk to them and resolve your differences, even if it didn't work out. That doesn't mean you failed. Maybe this person just wasn't very mature. They might also have a personal problem or might not be good at communicating. I believe someone who did this to me recently had a problem with imaging how other people would feel, so they didn't realise how hurtful their actions would be and that they were being rude. And that had nothing to do with me. I'm sure that you'll be able to move forward and find more supportive people eventually. I like to think of some of my experiences as dodged bullets.

It's good that you're able to turn to your family and boyfriend. They sound really supportive. When I had similar experiences, I found that venting to my family really helped me. I would also write letters to the people who hurt me explaining how I felt to make sense of my feelings, but without actually sending them.

@WheresMySquishy  rejection has always been a issue with me, and it hurts more as I never can be accepted, I’ve had rejection all thru my life and it’s getting worse.

I tried my best to get them to forgive me but it didn’t work, so I’m gonna try and move on from it (it’s so hard)

with my boyfriend, he’s been the best, he supports me and doesn’t make me feel like I’m not good enough, my family are always supportive of me, I rant to my boyfriend about my “friends” and it helps.

My boyfriend makes me the happiest person in the world, he says cute things and I’m falling more and more in love with him everyday, I’ve also never felt this way for a guy before so I’m sorta scared I don’t know if it’s a good thing or not. (I could really use some help with understanding this emotion)

@scared01  I’m trying my absolute best not to give up, without this friend but honestly it’s getting harder and harder everyday

Hi @Cheeseburger! It makes me sad that you're finding it hard without your friend around. Do you have any other friends who can support you? Additionally, are you a part of any groups such as a gym, a sporting or debate team, a community group, a religious group, or a hobby group? They can help fulfill a lot of our social needs.

How was your friendship with this person other than the fight? Sometimes it can help to weigh up the pros and cons of being in a friendship with a person who has let you down. I found that if the cons outweighed the benefits of a friendship, this helped me move on from people I had a falling out with.

@WheresMySquishy  mine and his friendship was bad at the beginning but then we became great friends, and then he got mad bcuz I was sticking up for another friend I knew longer then him, and now I’m the worst person to even try and fix things

@scared01 I’m gonna try and make some new friends, but it’s hard when everyone I talk to hates me 💔😞😭