TW: Sharing our problems!
Hi everyone, its my first time ever post to anywhere to share my story. Today is 2nd Dec, 23:22pm. I had a car accident last week. It was my first time involved in a car accident and i am at fault! I was freak out at that moment, shocked and totally dont know what to do! However i am still here typing all these, no one was hurted by the accident. I live far away from my family, i couldnt share or talk to my parents or my sibling or anyone. I feel so lonely in here to do everything on my own and its so hard. Christmas is coming soon but there are so many bad things came to my life....
this is just a little part of all these bad days in my life. If you are dealing with a problem or having any sadness inside, pls tell me because i am here to listening to you!
thanks for reading my story. Sending love from me to you!
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I'm so glad that everyone involved was okay @Kinkin. It must be so hard not being able to chat to your family after experiencing something so terrifying. 
I have been in a few car accidents myself as a passenger which really shook me up and I've also witnessed a few. My dad was in one that wrote off his car once. Luckily no one was hurt and all we had was a bit of whiplash.
Your willingness to listen to other people whilst going through a tough time yourself is so amazing and admirable. 🙂
How are you doing now?
hi @Kinkin I just wanted to check in and see how you're going a few weeks later. I'm so sorry to hear it's been tough for you lately, but even though you went through something traumatic, the fact you are still offering love, support and an open ear to others is really a testament to your character! Car accidents can be really scary though, I had one at the beginning of the year and even though it was only small I thought about it a lot afterwards. You mentioned overthinking and crying when you're driving, does driving make you anxious? Is there anyone you have spoken to/could speak to about this? I know I find driving really stressful and have to work myself up to do it, you are not alone in your feelings. I hope you're going well! 
Hey @StormySeas17, I am so sorry to hear that you have been in a few accidents. I agree, it can be really scary and easy to blame yourself for what happened. I like what you wrote about trying to remind yourself that it is an accident and everyone makes mistakes. I have had to remind myself of that before too!
We all love that you are a listener and love talking with other people - you sound like a really caring and supportive person.I am wondering if you have thought of chatting to a professional about how you have been feeling? Having flashbacks whenever you go to work must be really difficult and upsetting
Hi @Kinkin thanks so much for replying to each and every one of us 
I'm sorry to hear that you're still struggling with the memory of the crash. For me I would feel physically sick every time I passed the place I crashed. I found out later that it is one of the worst roads in my city for crashes! I just had to keep on going past and assuring myself every time I passed that it would be okay and that everything turned out alright in the end. It took a while but I ended up pushing through it by being kind to myself when the memory came back. I hope you're doing okay at the moment!
sorry to hear about everyone’s accidents although very grateful no one has been hurt.
I haven’t been in one where I was the driver thankfully yet but I nearly ended up in a horrible one a few weeks ago...was driving along a highway, a car illegally pulled in front of me, i slammed on the breaks and skidded so much I went completely into the adjacent lane (it was pouring down with rain). luckily the person in the adjacent lane was able to brake in time. just a reminder to drive extra safely, especially in the rain, and to check your tyre tread!
Hi @Kinkin, sorry to hear about the accident. I'm glad that no one got hurt. Thanks for sharing your story and offering support for others . I hope you feel better soon, and happy Christmas!
Hey @Kinkin I'm sorry to hear about the accident. I've been in two the last few years which I caused, my most recent one was only a couple months ago. I really struggle with that sense of being 'stupid' for doing something like that. In both accidents I've been quite emotionally drained (funnily enough both happened when I was writing psych reports I didn't know how to write...) so I've planned not to drive anymore when my mental health is bad. I've also had to remind myself that literally everyone gets into accidents. That's why they're called 'accidents'!
Hope everyone is doing okay!
Hi @Kinkin
I was recently in a car accident as well, it can be really frightening.
How are you going after all of that?
Is there anything nice you might be able to do for yourself?
Hope you're okay.
Hey @Kinkin welcome to the forum! Thanks for sharing your first post with us
I'm so sorry you were involved in a car accident that must have been so terrifying, I'm so glad that neither you or anyone else was hurt. That is really tough that you are living far away from loved ones, going through something like a car accident can be such a full on experience and not having your loved ones around must be making it even more intense. i'm wondering if you might be interested in getting some one-on-one support online to chat about how your feeling like through Kids Helpline or eheadspace?
We are also here to chat through things with you as well @Kinkin, I understand you're feeling lonely and I think its so beautiful that you've said that you are sending love and here to listen to others That is really what this forum is all about. So good to have you here 
