Tips for making friends/girlfriend during iso
I have a friend in my drama class who i think is pretty nice, and i might even have a (huge) crush on her. Since I'm in Melbourne I'm under stage 4 lockdown so i cant go to school and chat with her. At this point i just want to get to know her better from home. How do i try and get to know her better during iso (we communicate on instagram and snapchat every so often, which i engage but she seems interested. I am very shy too oop
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Hi @Brian6787, I get how you are feeling, this lockdown definitely means less natural opportunities to develop a relationship with a person.
If you're already chatting a bit on Instagram and Snapchat maybe a nice and small step might be to start chatting over messenger/text/etc? This might allow you to get more of a prolonged conversation going as opposed to something like snap chat 
If all goes well at that stage you could move to some of @TawnyOwl's great suggestions? I find that playing little online games together while Zooming tends to be great for date-like situations because it gives you something else to focus on when the conversation goes a bit quiet 
What do you think?
I really like @recharging_introvert ideas, maybe chatting over messenger and text to be a natural progression - you could even try and talk about drama e.g. homework or whatever you have coming up in class as a conversation starter and try and naturally progress the conversation to personal? Do you share any other classes with her?
Hi @Wolfie_ , we aren’t in any classes together apart from drama. I’m thinking of messaging her tonight just asking her about what music she likes
@Brian6787 Yep, a lot of building new friendships or relationships as everyone has said is creating consistent conversation! If she seems engaged with talking to you then that is an awesome sign that you guys might be able to chat once every few days or everyday I also found that private messaging is the best way to create a stronger connection, especially since we live in a technological world where most people like messaging. I honestly found that sending memes about a topic you both mutually enjoy and just getting into the habit of asking about someone's day works wonders! It's also a good way to see if someone has a different texting style to you and whether this is something that you can deal with.
If you wanted to do things like zoom do you maybe have any mutual friends who would be interested in hosting something?
Aww @Brian6787 it would suck not being able to see your crush at school and get to know them better. If things are going well chatting on socials maybe you could ask if she is comfy chatting on the phone? Or even just texting. It's hard when you feel shy but it's something that gets easier over time 🙂
I find being super honest in a gentle way helps to break that intro stage. Saying something along the lines of "It sucks that this lockdown means we can't say hi at school, I have really been enjoying getting to know you'' - in your own words of course. Could break the ice and help things progress.
Hey @Brian6787! Iso lockdown is hard, especially when you're trying to get to know people better. I'm NSW, so we're not currently in lockdown, but when we were me and my friends facetimed quite often to keep in touch. Maybe that could be an option for you and your friend? Otherwise there's facebook mini games, sending each other spotify playlists of your favorite music, netflix house party (I'm not sure how it works but it sounds like a fun time haha) and you could watch a movie at the same time with actors your both a fan of, or otherwise there's always the classic phone call 😄
Hope this is helpful! Fingers crossed your state's lockdown relaxes soon (:
Thanks for the advice. I feel like we just arent close enough for that kind of thing, i feel we are more at the introductery stage, even though we've known eachother for years, we've only started talking this year
