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Two things
Hi guys,
If anyone is still out here, I have a few concerns about my own life I'd like to address and I'm not quite sure what to do. If you don't have any definitive ideas, that's ok and your support is still appreciated. Anyways, here goes:
1. I'm on my nursing placement and the facilitators talked to me and addressed some behaviours I'd been doing wrong and mentioned that I was at risk of being kicked off placement and gave me a contract to sign. I signed it willingly, but I was surprised they mentioned anything, because I wasn't even aware I was doing anything wrong. Is it wrong of me to think people are snakes for having a problem with me and deciding to instantly go behind my back and complain to the big bosses instead of just going somewhere private and telling me not to do it again? Also, I've never had my heart in nursing, but I'm not sure where to go. I enjoy drawing and gaming and even creating stories and characters, but I'm just afraid that I'll run out of ideas and therefore won't be able to make a steady income off my hobbies (I haven't made money off my hobbies before).
2. There's this guy my now ex boyfriend and I met at a games night with one of my ex's friends. Said guy and I really hit it off, because we both love cats, enjoy gaming and have big mouths (we had a cheeto eating contest). I had a huge crush on him ever since I saw him and it's always stayed or grown. I kind of want to get with him but there are two problems. One is that I don't know whether or not he's interested in a relationship with me (or maybe anyone). He once said I was attractive, but I don't know if that means he wants to date me. The second problem is I felt like I had to hide my boyfriend from my parents (like they knew he was my friend but they didn't know we dated for 11 months, because I felt like they'd make us break up if I told them (we had a tumultous history in middle school). I'm both romantically and sexually attracted to this guy, but I don't want to make him too uncomfortable and ruin our friendship. I'd like to give things a try with him, but I don't think it's a good idea to have another secret boyfriend.
Any ideas of what I should do?
Comments
Hi @waddlet 
Hope you are doing well and thank you for sharing your experience with us. With your first point, It's understandable why you may feel upset that people directly reported you to your supervisors without communicating to you first and giving you a chance to clear things up. It can be particularly difficult to have gone through that during your placement and a time when everyone should be encouraging each other to learn and grow.
I do want to bring up one point and that is there's a chance that it wasn't a personal thing, as certain workplaces have protocols in which people's first point of contact if they have concerns, is their supervisor. In that sense maybe they didn't mean to make it a personal thing but that's just an alternate possibility. I'm not sure how things work in nursing and healthcare facilities. Either way though, it's not a very nice feeling to have experienced your colleagues going behind your back in that sense and I hope you're able to push through whatever criticism it may have been.
Also, were you able to talk to anyone to find out more information on what exactly it is you did wrong so you could clear up confusion and get some better closure for yourself?
Yes, the supervisor came in and talked to me before giving me the contract to sign. I just really I hope I survive the rest of this placement, I've already been held back a year at uni and I dunno where to go if I can't nurse
Hi @waddlet, thanks for sharing. It must have been really confronting to receive that contract. I can hear that it was quite unexpected and upsetting for you. I am so sorry that you are quite afraid about what is to come next for you, especially if your placement doesn't work out. That must be so hard to sit with that I am wondering if your supervisor or if the contract gave you some ways to improve? Best of luck for your placement, you've got this!
It did. If I summarised it properly, I am to communicate professionally, not talk over others (I don't mean to talk over others but I guess sometimes I do it by accident) and continue asking for and seeking feedback
Hey there @waddlet how are you feeling about the situation today? It can be super uncomfy getting feedback like this, especially when it's about personality traits that come out by accident!
If it helps, we all have these conversations at least once in our work/study lives. It's can bring up different feelings but it also helps in the long run (with the right support + guidance). I hope this is the case for you!
So I had a talk to the supervisor and even though I didn't pass the formative assessment, I still have a chance with the summative assessment. At least by accepting feedback, I got one above average mark so that's good. Anyways I think I can survive this placement. The supervisor plans to talk to his boss because he thinks it might undo all our hard work and we'd have to start over if I were to move to a new ward
Hey @waddlet, glad you were able to chat to your supervisor and figure something out. I imagine that must have been a really daunting conversation for you.
It is also great that they have given you feedback that you can use to pass your next assessment. It sounds like this has given you a bit of hope that you can get through this - would that be right? How are you feeling about the summative assessment?
I guess but now I have a new problem...I don't want my parents to see me photocopying my clinical learning contract with my other documents, because they'll freak if they find out I am or was failing
Maybe but my parents use find my friends on me. However, I did get a good grade in a clinical assessment, so hopefully they won't be mad if they see me improving
Hey @waddlet , that's great to hear about your good grade in your clinical assessment, way to go! I can completely understand your hesitancy about your parents finding out about failing an assessment, it can be really hard to shoulder other people's expectations when you're studying or working on a placement. If they did ask why you were going to Officeworks or somewhere for photocopying, what do you think you would say? Do you think they would understand if you explained that you didn't pass one part of the assessment, but that you got some feedback and you're doing well now?
I'm just thinking I'll photocopy when they're not home or in the same room as me lol
Alright, it's all scanned to a USB. Hopefully that's the end of that