parents found my search history
Hi everyone I really need some advice on what to because my parents found my search history and if you didn't already know, I am transgender and a part of the lgbt+ community.
So basically I had a facebook account that I don't use and haven't logged into for a while now, but I guess because it was linked to my mum's facebook and we share an IP address, she started getting ads for pride and lgbt+ stuff and started to ask me questions about it. She noticed how i've been dressing super masculine and trying to lower my voice but i'm not ready to have that conversation with her yet.
Since then i've been super paranoid about my parents finding anything else so i deleted everything and took down all my pride stuff hanging up in my bedroom. it kinda feels like i just ripped a huge part of my identity away and i really don't want to hide anymore but at the same time i'm also not ready to come out to my parents.
what do i do? any help or advice is greatly appreciated
Comments
Hi @not-an-otter ! 
That sounds like a really worrying time for you and no one should have to hide themselves especially from their family. But its understandable if you dont feel ready and thats always going to be your call to make when you have the talk with them - but now might also seem like an opportunity to have that talk if you feel like you're losing yourself instead.
If you still feel like keeping it your own secret till you've figured it out more clearly, maybe consider using incognito browsers to hide your activity.
Also maybe the ads your mom is getting is due the Mardi Gras and maybe you can tell her that ?
Hope everything works out !
Oof... That sounds really hard..
How do you think your mum would react if she found out? Do you think you'd be safe?
I want to come out, I really do- I found a gay friend group at school and they use the right pronouns and everything it's so awesome- but I also don't want my parents to find out from going through my search history ya know?
p.s. you got the builder role!!! oh wow congratulations I'm so happy for you 🙂
@not-an-otter that sucks...
I know what you mean, minus the masculinity part obviously.
Do you think it's possible to find some male role models who don't do the whole.. toxic masculinity thing? If that makes sense..
It's really good that you'd be safe. It means for a start that you don't need to plan an escape or anything stressful like that.
Did you want to talk about some ways to come out that might be do-able for you?
There are lots of ways to come out that don't involve teary emotional discussions. I personally made an animation of a penguin to explain things for me. The hardest part was making the penguin blink so it didn't look completely soul-less...
And yes! It's super exciting, though I'm still getting used to it a bit.
