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@Rattata I completely agree with @StormySeas17 that I think it's really helpful that you took the time to reflect on the situation - the ability to take a step back and look at what we do is the biggest step towards gaining insight into things. 

Reationships aren't easy, especially when people are quite different - but it sounds like you both really care about each other and you're committed to working on things.

Do you feel like you can talk to each other about how you both feel and the reasons for feeling the way you do (i.e. you feeling uncared for, or her feeling guarded)?