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Feeling Replaced/Connecting Issues

So basically there is my close friend who is really important to me and from past few days /weeks I am feeling that there is a distance coming not exactly distance but i mean something is empty like first we used to talk a lot may be and now we don't talk and its just getting of hands he is close to me and now everything is falling and he means a lot of me and it's just falling I would say there is void of emptyness and it's can be my overthinking alsoo 

Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 27-08-2021 04:17 PM

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Anzelmo
AnzelmoPosted 29-08-2021 09:00 AM

HI @Sherbert_Yak

 

I can see you're feeling down about your friend, and I can see why you would feel that way. It can be scary, daunting, and saddening to see people drift away.  But just like the ocean waves, they can always get back to shore! Sometimes people just need space, they may be busy, or their priorities may have shifted. This doesn't mean they don't care for you. I realized during COVID a lot of people's relationships tend to waver and shift just because of how hard it can be to stay connected. 

 

As some other members have said, I think you can try to find healthy ways to reach out to your friend and rekindle your relationship. 

 
Portia_RO
Portia_ROPosted 27-08-2021 04:50 PM

Hi @Sherbert_Yak and welcome to the online community 😄

 

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling a sense of distance and emptiness between you and your friend. It sounds like you'd really like to stay close to him and that your friendship means a lot to you. How do you think he would respond if he knew that you weren't feeling connected with him? 

 

If you feel like it, here's an article on coping with changing friendships for you to take a look at. It might give you a few ideas on how to manage feeling disconnected from your friend.

 

Thinking of you @Sherbert_Yak. Navigating friendships is tough, so we are always here for a chat if you need it ❤️

 
 
Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 27-08-2021 06:52 PM

I don't know how would he respond but its like I can't talk to him on this topic it's difficult I can't share this feeling with him I thik he might judge me and I will make a fool of myself

 
 
 
Taylor-RO
Taylor-ROPosted 27-08-2021 10:57 PM

Hey @Sherbert_Yak, I am sorry that you feel like you can't talk about this topic with him. What makes you feel as though he might judge you? It can be vulnerable to open yourself up so I can totally see why you are feeling hesitant and worried about what he might think Heart It must be so tough to be in your position. 

 
 
 
 
Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 28-08-2021 12:00 AM

I mean it's like I think he won't listen to me seriously like he will take it in a funny way or he would act like let it be or maybe he won't listen like I don't know maybe I am not comfortable to tell him I usually don't tell what I feel and this topic will backfire me because I am a overthinker I might be o

 
 
 
 
 
Courtney-RO
Courtney-ROPosted 28-08-2021 12:46 PM

Hi @Sherbert_Yak I'm sorry to hear that you don't feel that your friend will take you seriously or that he won't listen, that sounds really tough. It can be so scary opening up to your friends about your feelings, so I can definitely understand why you might feel uncomfortable.

 

I am an overthinker too, so I am wondering if maybe something else could be causing the distance. Is there a possibility that your friend might be going through something right now, that may have caused them to pull away? Could you arrange a catch up maybe, where you might be able to talk to them in a more casual setting?

 

Were all here for you 💜

 
 
 
 
 
Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 28-08-2021 05:49 PM

Yes definitely I will try talking to him and thank you soo much I really helped

 
 
 
 
 
Taylor-RO
Taylor-ROPosted 28-08-2021 09:25 PM

Great to hear @Sherbert_Yak, please feel welcome to share how you go Heart Best of luck!

 
 
Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 27-08-2021 06:49 PM

Thank you yes I would try

 
Onion
OnionPosted 27-08-2021 04:48 PM

Hi @Sherbert_Yak

 

Feeling that a close friendship is growing apart can be really tough to process. I can only imagine how hard it must have been for you to feel this way.

From my personal experience, sometimes friendships just naturally grow apart but this doesn't mean that you can't stay in touch. I've also had experiences where both me and my friend thought that we hated each other (but we didn't 😅) and talking to my friend about made me realize it was a misunderstanding which, made us grow closer together.

 

Perhaps you could talk to your friend about how you feel (in a private setting)? It could be the case that your friend is also not aware of how you feel and so unintentionally behaved in a way that made you feel this way? 

 

I really hope you can reconnect with you friend!

 
 
Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 27-08-2021 07:33 PM

You may be  right thank you so much 

 
 
Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 27-08-2021 06:51 PM

I want to talk to him about how I feel but I don't want to talk to him about this feeling because I think I will make a fool out of myself and I am not expressive and I really want to talk to him but I am unable to talk toh him like I just can't talk to him on this topic

 
 
 
Onion
OnionPosted 28-08-2021 05:33 PM

Hey @Sherbert_Yak

 

It is completely understandable why you feel this way. I also still have some difficulty expressing my feelings. Perhaps it would be more helpful right now to try to rediscover common interests with your friend as a way to reconnect? 

 
 
 
 
Sherbert_Yak
Sherbert_YakPosted 28-08-2021 05:50 PM

Yes I will try and thank you soo muchh

 
 
 
 
 
Onion
OnionPosted 30-08-2021 02:31 PM

All g! 

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