originally posted on 21-09-2015 9:59 PM

And it's nearrrrly over everyone! 

Thank you all for your amazing posts. I always love reading through these sessions after they are done. I learn heaps every time 🙂

originally posted on 21-09-2015 9:58 PM

What are three coping strategies you will use when dealing with conflict next time?

1. Take it easy- Leave my baggage and my stress at the door so the conflict doesn't end up being about feelings from somewhere else. 

2. Listen reaaalllly carefully. Communication is a two way street. Make sure you hear and understand what the other person is saying and make sure you are heard and understood. 

3. Be true to myself - Understand that it's okay to diagree with someone else and sometimes there might not be a solution.

originally posted on 21-09-2015 9:50 PM

How can conflict be positive?

Sometimes change happens slowly but sometimes it happens all at once. I think often when change is sudden, it's brought about by conflict between two or more people realising an important point of difference. I think if both people in the conflict can have that fight in a respectful way - even if it's got a bit of heat to it- then knowing and understanding that difference will eventually be a good thing.  Even if it doesn't feel like it in the heat of the moment.

It's also an opourtunity to learn a lot about yourself. You might not realise how much something matters to you until someone else argues that it doesn't! 

originally posted on 21-09-2015 9:34 PM

@tsnyder
It wouldn't be a very good chat about conflict without a fight now would it?

What does it mean to agree to disagree?

I think if you boil it all down, a disagreement or agreement is a difference or a similarity in opinion and/or perspective.

So if you agree, you see things the same way. If you disagree, you don't.

Or you believe the same thing, or don't.

That all gets clouded by things like being misunderstood. Or people not making their position clear enough, or perhaps like @Derpington said ages ago; stress or emotional baggage.

originally posted on 21-09-2015 9:18 PM

@ruenhonx

I am not sure if i totally agree with you! I think sometimes emotions can run a little hot. Not everyone is calm all the time and I think that's normal. I think sometimes people can agree to disagree and perhaps that means they won't get along after a conflict. I think all of that can be a normal part of a healthy disagreement. 

originally posted on 21-09-2015 9:07 PM

@evanescence catching up with an hour's worth of conversation in one post! Whoa. 

originally posted on 21-09-2015 9:04 PM

I like that you know when to walk off @j95  that's a pretty rare skill that a lot of people have no idea how to do you have a lot of those rare skills I think! 

How can you effectively talk to someone whilst having a disagreement?

I think you have to be aware of how you "fight" for lack of a better word. I think that you need to know your limits like @j95. For example if you're too angry to actually have a conversation and need to walk away.

Or the opposite, like when you have to know when to speak up to make sure your voice and the things that matter to you are heard. 

In both cases I think it's about communicating. So listening to what the other person has to say and understanding it. But also making sure the other person understands where you're coming from. 

originally posted on 21-09-2015 8:58 PM

If someone is hurt because they lost its okay. If someone is hurt because you were aggresive like yelled or insulted them or physically hit them thats not okay. 

originally posted on 21-09-2015 8:54 PM

It seems like we all have limits here that are around the physical. Is anything else fair game? 
@Derpington what is "hurting the person too much" to you?

originally posted on 21-09-2015 8:52 PM

I think it's going too far if you hurt the other person too much in any way shape or form. 

originally posted on 21-09-2015 8:50 PM

4. What does someone 'going to far' look like in an argument? (Such as name calling, insults, etc.)

Hmmm, anything physical is a dealbreaker. 

Insults are a bad time. 

Making the problem about the person rather than the actual thing you're trying to sort out generally makes things worse.

Oh and bringing old fights up that have nothing to do with the new one as some kind of ammunition.