originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:20 PM

What are some things that help you manage the feels around grief?

 

Making sure you have a support network around you that you can turn to if you need a hand as well as practicing self-care regularly and putting yourself first.

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:28 PM

What are some things that help you manage the feels around grief?

 

When I was 14, I lost my grandmother. She was my biggest support and it was hard to lose her. Less than a month later, one of my closest family friends died and she was only 7 years old. Losing two people I really cared about in less than 2 months was one of the hardest things I had to go through. But at both funerals, I wrote a letter to them. Saying goodbye but also putting in all the feeling I had about them dying. I would then put it on the coffin and it would be with them always. I never got to say goodbye to either of these wonderful people but writing that letter really helped with doing so.  

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:36 PM

@Cookierstarr welcome, thank you for joining us tonight and sharing that beautiful gesture! ❤️
I'm sorry to hear you had 2 people that were close pass away so soon to each other - that happened to me in 2015, my nan in November, and then my grandmother in December 😞
I'm glad to hear that writing the letter helped you feel like you said goodbye to them

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:31 PM

hi @Cookiestarr welcome to the GR

 

@mrmusicexactly- it cna be tough to do though. sometimes we need each other when grieving and we can help by supporting one another

 

@Beethats really sweet. i wouldnt know what my nan would say in alot of cases. she was pretty quiet but sometimes i can hear her too in my thoughts. 

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:23 PM

@Bee @scared01 @FootyFan26 - absolutely right - making sure you are meeting your own needs!

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:22 PM

@FootyFan26a support network- of course! good thinking!

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:12 PM

@Tdozer@Eagle@Cheeseburger@Cookiestarr@ZayaQuark

you guys up for  a chat?

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:16 PM

What are some things that help you manage the feels around grief?

 

 

i find journalling can be quite helpful. sometimes ill write letters to that person/ pet and let my feelings out. i also find rememeberin their death and aniversaires/birthdays are important. i often light candles in memory, or take flowers to the grave site, and sometimes cook that persons favourite meal. 

 

i also think learning to accept your emotions, and not being to hard on yourself for having alot of thoughts/emotions around their passing is a good idea despite how hard it is. just know everyone gireves differently and we all go through different phases, some quicker than others and thats more than ok

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:22 PM

@scared01 writing letters to them sounds like an awesome idea 🙂
I love how you do things to remember them, kind of like honouring their memory ❤️
That is a very good point! Everyone grieves differently, and it's okay to feel whatever emotion you are feeling

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:26 PM

That is exactly right @mrmusic 

@FootyFan26I love that you mentioned having a good support system! That is also a good idea 🙂

 

Okayz next question 🙂

 

3. What are some positives to come out of feeling grief and experiencing the grieving process? (Are able to work through your feelings, reflect on your relationship with whatever you are grieving and be more in touch with your own feelings without pushing them out of the way)

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:30 PM

3. What are some positives to come out of feeling grief and experiencing the grieving process? (Are able to work through your feelings, reflect on your relationship with whatever you are grieving and be more in touch with your own feelings without pushing them out of the way)

 

 

I think grief can be a way of putting things into perspective in life, and I have found it a good way of making sure you are grateful for even the little things. It can also make you a stronger person, and build your character, and you now have this experience to be able to support and empathise with others.

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:35 PM

3. What are some positives to come out of feeling grief and experiencing the grieving process? 

 

Personaly it made me think about my life more. But also that I shouldn't get angry because they are gone. When my grandmother died, I realised that now she is back with her husband that died before my brother an I were born. Putting that way made me feel happier. 

 

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:33 PM

3. What are some positives to come out of feeling grief and experiencing the grieving process? (Are able to work through your feelings, reflect on your relationship with whatever you are grieving and be more in touch with your own feelings without pushing them out of the way)

 

i think learning to manage our emotions in a healthy way as well as learning that its ok to have these feelings is a postive experience. its a journey really. atm im grievin after my great grandmother passed away last week but ive learnt alot from the past on how to deal with grief.

 

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:35 PM

3. What are some positives to come out of feeling grief and experiencing the grieving process?

 

I think closure is a big one as it allows you to accept what has happened but also move on.

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:36 PM

YES @FootyFan26, closure is so important.

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:26 PM

well sometimes i think its stupid @Bee but i find it helps. i could be thinking how i wish i could talk to that person or share a secret or talk to them like i use to and share the good/bad things and while i cant talk to them. i feel like im talking to them by writing them down. the candle also represents the light- candles are usually a luxury and soothing item as well. i try to buy the pink rose scented candles when i remember my nan as her fave colour was pink and fave flower were pink roses.  so i try to keep to that theme makes it more personal. 

 

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:29 PM

@scared01 that is beautiful ❤️ that is really touching!
I haven't written a letter, but at my 21st I had a moment where I just let myself talk as though I was talking to my grandmother, it really felt like she was there with me 🙂

originally posted on 26-03-2018 8:17 PM

i agree with you @Bee self care is a biggie!

originally posted on 26-03-2018 7:48 PM

Hello @j95!