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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:35 PM
@stonepixie I think that breaking everything down into smaller parts is a great idea! I can see how it could make things feel more manageable that way.
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:34 PM
But I agree with everyone, sometimes you just need someone to go as a support person.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:29 PM
benjamin_ wrote:8. Becoming more comfortable in social situations that make us highly anxious can take time, so sometimes it can be best to start small rather than trying to face our biggest fears right away! What are some simple ways to start practicing social skills on a daily basis?
I think being kind to ourselves in really important.. like you said, realising you can overcome this stuff overnight but rewarding yourself for trying or for small wins.... Support yourself like you would your best friend or someone else here on RO
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:25 PM
What are some skills that you think are important in social situations, and how can they be developed?
Biggest skill i beleive is to just be present. I think this is a skill because naturally, we think and over think, and if we feel uncomfortable think a bit more! so training yourself not to think and to simply just be and be comfortable and let conversation flow out of you
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:28 PM
Becoming more comfortable in social situations that make us highly anxious can take time, so sometimes it can be best to start small rather than trying to face our biggest fears right away! What are some simple ways to start practicing social skills on a daily basis?
I think a simple way to start focusing on social skills is to get a job in customer service. Talking to people all day with a 'role' is so easy to do. and often at teh end of the day you can leave the secure 'work role' context but still feel quite sociable etc!
Also i find you sortof need to warm up your social skills. In retail it takes me a few ppl to ask them how there weekends been or if they have had a busy day and after a few conversations im flowing. If i stop talking to people for 10 minutes i feel like i have to warm up again often, so just get rolling sometimes maybe? 😛
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:30 PM
Agreed @Troy
Work is a place great place to develop social skills, particularly anything that involves customer service.
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:31 PM
Yep practice at work, or even online too... Online Community Manager
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:28 PM
Good point @Troy
Being present is important, and I think mindfulness can really help here. It's definitely a skill to become more in tune with your surroundings and the present as we can live entirely in our own heads sometimes.
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:16 PM
What are some skills that you think are important in social situations, and how can they be developed?Assertiveness is important and being able to stand up for yourself and others. Instead of letting yourself be walked all over, being able to speak up!
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:16 PM
What are some skills that you think are important in social situations, and how can they be developed?I think it's just as important to listen as it is to speak confidently, sometimes we get so anxious we forget to pay attention to the conversation
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:11 PM
Time for the next question guys.
- What are some skills that you think are important in social situations, and how can they be developed?
One thing I can think of is assertiveness and communication skills. You can develop them through social skills classes, work on them with a psychologist or a counsellor, or just read stuff online and practice yourself! There's some handy Tips for communicating here on RO.
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:18 PM
that factsheet is good, I also like this onehttp://au.reachout.com/listening-skills-worth-having
sometimes when we are nervous we are not listening properly because we are so worried about what we should say next... but if you listen well, questions to ask or the next thing to say will come naturally...
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:21 PM
Yes, I agree, whats that saying....
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:19 PM
Definitely listen to hear instead of only listening to respond.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:15 PM
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:17 PM
Lol can't disagree with that @stonepixie! Unfortunately douche bags are always going to be out there, but we do what we can!
CBT is super effective for anxiety and has def helped me heaps too.
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:03 PM
I hate when you do a presentation and you can hear people whispering "look how much he is shaking" or when I don't want to get up "just do it and get it done" HA yeah ok cause that's easy.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:05 PM
@j95 I know what you mean. I did a debate about a year ago and I found myself shaking in it! I had no idea I could get so anxious over something like that but we're totally not alone in it, heaaaps of people feel this way about public speaking!
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:00 PM
As in not people I hate or that we had each other, we just have different opinions that sort of thing.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 8:59 PM
Do you find that you’re more anxious with any specific groups of people? If so, why do you think this is the case?I'm not sure why but I can be super confident and making people laugh with some people but be shying away with other people, usually people I am very different to or have said things to me in the past that I strongly disagree with - it makes me super anxious to talk in case they just laugh and think I'm an idiot.
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 8:59 PM
Do you find that you’re more anxious with any specific groups of people? If so, why do you think this is the case?Tbh it depends on my mood, when I'm manic people don't bother me as much, but when I'm depressed I avoid social situation
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 9:04 PM
Actually that's true for me too @redhead, but on a much different level to bipolar! But definitely depends on my mood how awkward or anxious I feel.... Online Community Manager
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 8:56 PM
Yep @Troy I agree but when they talk about stuff I don't know about I feel excluded and then get anxious about being alone then my mind runs about how they probably hate me and all that stuff. I think a lot 😕- Mark as New
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originally posted on 27-07-2015 8:54 PM
I avoid social situations where I might only know one person cause talking to new people is hard and difficult to initiate without being weird. I worry that the person I know will think I'm annoying and there will be times where I'm standing on my own like a loser haha cause I don't want to be annoying by following them around all the time.Actually that sort of happens with groups of people too, certain groups of people I feel unwelcome around and I worry that all that stuff I mentioned about will happen.
