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Nurture relationship with siblings goal4

My siblings are the most important people to me and one of the goals I am working on is nurturing the relationship with my siblings.

 

 

I'd like to a good example to my siblings by expressing emotions in a healthy way through sport, art, music rather than in negative ways like aggressive behaviour. I'd like to spend more time with them and if I can't spend more time with them then make the time I do have with more as valuable as possible. 

 

I've been going to yoga with vahs and I was thinking maybe it would be good if I taught them what I have learnt because it probably be beneficial for them and maybe get them onto Smiling Mind too. 

 

Does anybody have any information or resources on younger siblings and relationships? perhaps role modelling too?

 

At the moment I'm trying to monitor my emotional behaviour and try to keep it positive and less angry and destructive, if anybody sees me doing this well that will help out with this goal I think because then I know what to do right.

 

 

j95
j95Posted 30-04-2017 05:00 PM

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j95
j95Posted 16-05-2017 10:47 PM
I'll take it but there will other things there to do too 🙂 @scared01
 
j95
j95Posted 11-05-2017 07:59 PM
@scared01 @Bree-RO yeah I hope so too I miss them 😞 yeah I guess I could send them things
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 08:15 PM

sending hugs to you @j95

 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 11-05-2017 08:17 PM
Thanks @scared01 I have already planned some things to do when we get to see each other again do you want me to share
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 08:18 PM

yeah id love to know @j95

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 11-05-2017 08:34 PM
I made this board game thing so I hope they like it @scared01 also I bought some sensory things I think my little sister would like - they will help her I think. Her carers have been trying to implement some cards to help her express herself better so that will be helpful
 
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 08:46 PM

thats fantastic @j95 very creative! and im sure she will like it too 🙂

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 11-05-2017 08:50 PM
I hope so I made it so all of them would understand, my littlest sister might only play it for a minute or stop for like 20 seconds to see what we're doing but I still made sure o included things in it for her @scared01
 
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 08:52 PM

sounds fantastic @j95

well done for making it

younger kids dont tend to keep ovvupied with board games but she might find it interesting too

well done

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 11-05-2017 09:03 PM
Yeah she is 7 @scared02 she has autism, tends to do her own thing which is normally just *run* *sees something interesting, stops for 5 seconds* *continues running* 🙂 🙂
 
 
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 09:04 PM

aww cute @j95 ðŸ™‚ 🙂

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 16-05-2017 10:34 PM
I get to see them this week I'm really happy about it
 
j95
j95Posted 11-05-2017 06:31 PM
It's supposed to be every Friday afternoon but the visits keep getting cancelled by the place that runs it. I contacted them about it and they said they undergoing some changes in that area so some mix ups might have been occurring they'll try and work it out all out for me @scared01 but I don't know if that will happen considering how much I've been stuffed around
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 07:05 PM

well thats shite @j95 hopefully they get it sorted out soon, you deseerve to see your siblings

 
 
 
Bree-RO
Bree-ROPosted 11-05-2017 07:07 PM

Yes @scared01 I agree, hope it gets sorted @j95 and you get some time with them. I don't doubt that they love you very much and miss you. Can you send them gifts/letters etc?

 
j95
j95Posted 11-05-2017 05:10 PM
I haven't been allowed to see them @scared01
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 06:03 PM

well thats shite @j95

 

when do you get to see them again?

 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 30-04-2017 08:03 PM

I love this thread @j95! I think it's so lovely that you're intent on helping your siblings in this way.

 

In regards to information, I can only offer my own experience in trying to be a good role model to my own younger brother. He and I are very similar and I'm trying to give him the guidance I wish I had, by showing an interest in things he likes such as baking, certain TV shows and pokemon Go. So knowing their interests (which I'm sure you do) is something I'd recommend.

 

Also, if you do find yourself reacting ineffectively in front of them, as I do with my brother, it might be about explaining to them what's going on for you. e.g. Earlier today X happened and now I feel Y. The honesty and open communication might help them feel like they can be similarly honest with you. 

 
 
j95
j95Posted 30-04-2017 08:16 PM
thanks @letitgo yeah the honesty is important.
there is so many of them i have to try and spread my time amongst them all haha
 
 
 
scared01
scared01Posted 11-05-2017 04:52 PM

how is your relationships going @j95 are they still going ok? getting better?

 
scared01
scared01Posted 30-04-2017 05:28 PM

hi @j95 

 

i think you shouldnt change yourself to the extent they dont know who you are. your character traits are still what make you YOU.

i think teaching them those life skills, the fun activities like yoga and things that you and they have in common or things they like such as skateboarding or surfing as well.

i think role modelling as such is showing them that you care about them, are willing to teach and share things with them and learning to maintain your emotions but still letting them know that its ok to show emotions and express how they are feeling to you or to others in their life. role modelling often comes naturally with trust as well  🙂

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