Bullying
Hi I am Hayley, I have been severely bullied by a girl in my class, she is a bit overweight and others think she is jealous of me as I am very smart and she is not as smart. I am very upset all the time and I cant help but wonder what would happen if I committed suicide. I need help
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Hello @Hayles12, I am sorry to hear that you have been bullied and are going through some difficutl times lately. You mentioned that you have been thinking about suicide and need help. Are you safe right now? Do you have anyone close to you that you are able to talk to about how you are feeling?
I also just wanted to let you know that we have moved your post to a more appropriate area on the forums, but that the thread title has remained the same - feel free to change this to something else 
I am safe right now, I do have people to talk to but I feel alone and I don't know what people might say if I try and talk to them, I have talked to many of my friends, mum and my nan as well as other helplines too
Hey @Hayles12,
I just wanted to let you know I've changed the title of this thread so that it's easier for people to find and respond appropriately to, but you are still welcome to change it to something else if you like
How are things going with you this week?
Hi, thx for asking, my week has been good. I felt down on Monday as I was thinking about two very hard events that both happen 5 years ago which made me sad but I have felt better since then. The bully has tried to put me down but I not listen anymore
@Hannah-RO wrote:Hey @Hayles12,
I just wanted to let you know I've changed the title of this thread so that it's easier for people to find and respond appropriately to, but you are still welcome to change it to something else if you like
How are things going with you this week?
Not listening to bullies is a great strategy @Hayles12, I'm glad to hear that you're taking that approach. Sorry you were feeling down thinking about the past, sometimes thoughts just creep up on us. Is there anything you find helpful when you think about things that upset you?
Hey @Hayles12 I'm really happy to hear that you've been able to stop listening to the bully! That's a really powerful first step I also hope you're feeling okay after having a rough day. I know it's been a while but how are you feeling?
Hey, I have been in hospital
@StormySeas17 wrote:
Hey @Hayles12 I'm really happy to hear that you've been able to stop listening to the bully! That's a really powerful first step
I tried to harm myself but I am ok now
Haven't seen your message for a long time. How things going with you? Are you feeling better now? If you are still feeling struggled and negative, feel free to let us know, we are here supporting you.
Hey @Hayles12 I'm relieved to hear that you are okay now. Thank you for jumping on to let us know how are you are 
What are you getting up to tonight? Sounds like it has been a super rough time for you, I hope you are feeling supported at the moment. Also, just letting you know I did have to edit some of your post. If you want to check the guidelines they are here.
Hey @Hayles12, I'm so sorry to hear that you're in hospital but I'm relieved to know you're safe. Are you feeling better at all? What have you been up to?
I am glad to hear that you are safe right now and that you have some support available to you @Hayles12. I understand that it might seem a bit scary to talk to others about how you are feeling when you are unsure how they will respond. I think it is helpful to talk to people that are supportive as they will want what is best for you and will want to help you get through these times. It sounds like your family has been very supportive of you so far, would you feel comfortable telling your mum or nan about how you have been feeling?
There is also the option of calling the helplines like you mentioned. They are mental health professionals that will support you in a non-judgmental and friendly environment, which might make you feel a bit more comfortable sharing your feelings
Hey @Hayles12 I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with bullying- it sounds awful 
I relate both to having people picking on you for doing better at school at them and just them making you upset in general. For me it was a girl who hated the fact I would always get better marks in one of our subjects than her and she couldn't handle it. This stopped when she wasn't in my class anymore. Another girl I just found used to upset me because she was rude and mean to me and my friends and it made me feel the same way you did.
I think it's really powerful that you've realised the reason behind the conflict and that it's not actually about you- you aren't doing anything wrong at all, you're just doing your best, and even if she doesn't like that I think you should be proud of yourself! One thing I would suggest would be to talk to a trusted teacher about it. For me it was my year coordinator, and it happened all of a sudden after the second girl said something awful to my friend on my birthday and I was so upset I had to go home early. She had us go to a joint counselling session at the school with the counsellor and talk it out and it helped a lot to figure out why we were clashing so much. It didn't make us friends but it did make life a lot better until she left the school. If this wouldn't work it may be possible that they could arrange something else, like having you in different classes. Is this something you would be comfortable discussing with a teacher, or maybe having your parents tell the school about?
