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Embarrassed about how I dress
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So there's a bit of tension here. wearing the coat is embarassing, but on the other hand, you care about your mum and wearing it is one way to express that, is that about right @Michelle2311?
What is it that makes your mum upset whenever you talk about the clothing situation with her?
Hi @Michelle2311, I had a similar problem with my mum when I was about 13! When it got cold, she put me in all of her old coats which were super baggy and made me feel really self-conscious. The way that I got through to her was by offering to do chores around the house to save up enough money to buy a nice, comfortable coat that I really wanted. Do you think that may be something that could work for you?
@Michelle2311 Could you possibly wear the coat when you leave the house/your mum's company, and then take it off when she can't see you? I know that's not entirely honest, but it might be one way of making you feel less self-conscious about it. What do you think?
Hey @Michelle2311 I am just wondering any chance you could have a one on one sit down with your Mum? Maybe write down what you want to say first? You're a growing human, sometimes Mum's forget that we aren't little kids any more.
Let me know your thoughts
@Michelle2311 it's definitely frustrating when someone can't see your point of view 😞 do you have any other family members who could maybe have a chat to your mum about your concerns? Unfortunately sometimes adults are reluctant to listen unless the advice is coming from another adult.
Hi @Michelle2311 and welcome to Reach Out.
Have you tried explaining to your mum how being dressed in those kinds of clothes makes you feel?
Maybe there's a different coat that you could wear which would still keep you warm but also help you feel comfortable?
If you are really worried about it and it seems like something extreme, I would say see a doctor. You may have thin blood and they could give you something to help, being cold all the time could be dangerous.
For me a doctor helped, I ended up having an autoimmune condition.
If it is a fashion matter, simply learning your style and how to rock it could help. Confidence is key, you could wear a trash bag with confidence and people would notice it and think you really own that look