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Moving (maybe)

I think when I'm discharged I'm going to have to move. I've been thinking my home has become a trigger, too many memories and bad things happened there like when I nearly died at home. 

 

I'm thinking it's about time I moved back into supported accommodation as I can't look after myself anymore. I feel like it's a step backwards but it may need to happen so I can stay safe. I'm scared. 

 

I really don't know what to do. I feel like I  can't go back to my house but I don't want to be homeless again. And my case manager is on leave so I cant work out with her what my next step is. 

I know I have to get discharged but I'm scared. Right now I'm clear enough to know I want to be safe, but when I'm not clear I have to die there's no other options. I also dont want to go psychotic again, and my house triggers that off too so yeh. 

How do I tell them any of this. 

I guess I could start with my temp case manager tomorrow but I'm scared. 

redhead
redheadPosted 16-07-2017 08:46 PM

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LadyMacbeth00
LadyMacbeth00Posted 31-07-2017 06:08 PM
Hey @redhead , just want to check in to see how you're doing now. Give me a shout if you want to talk 🙂
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 31-07-2017 06:35 PM
@LadyMacbeth00 I looked at a place today, I'm going to see if I can get it
 
 
 
LadyMacbeth00
LadyMacbeth00Posted 31-07-2017 06:45 PM
I hope all goes well for you 🙂
 
redhead
redheadPosted 17-07-2017 12:39 PM
I'm getting discharged today, I've arranged to stay at a friends because I don't want to go back to my house
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 17-07-2017 02:31 PM

@redhead that sounds like a really great interim measure.

 

Supported accomodation isn't always a step back. Especially if it's something like a step up/step down program where you live for a little while, but with the plan of always going back to somewhere else when you're ready.

 

What specific things in or about the house cause the feelings? Are they things you could change? If you did move, but things got tough again, how would you go about making sure that these challenges didn't happen all over again?

 

Do you rent? Own? Or do you get housing assistance?

 

 

 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 17-07-2017 04:22 PM
@Ben-RO I've never been to a step up step down program. I lived in a supported accommodation/recovery program for a year and over two years ago, but towards the end there things got rough.
I spoke to my temp case manager today about some of my options and we agreed to wait till my case manager came back next week before going ahead with anything. My temp explained some of the different options out there and some of it sounds good.

I live by myself in a private rental. My house is triggering from the last few times I've attempted at home, I can't be there without it reminding me of it and it makes me want to try again tbh. Also I don't think I can cope on my own anymore, being stuck with my thoughts and the aliens gets too much and I just act on them. I need to learn better ways of dealing with my crisises. With the supported accommodation there would be staff and other people there to help me deal with things. I would also create a management plan with them so they and I know what to do when certain things arise.

I know moving won't fix all my problems but I need a new start and a new focus l. I can't keep doing what I've been doing. I don't want to end up dead.
 
 
 
 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 17-07-2017 08:09 PM

@redhead I am so impressed by your self-awareness and recognition that supported accommodation might be what you need right now. If it is, that's totally okay. The most important thing is that you're safe.

 

I know you can't tell because this is a text post but I am smiling as I type this and I am cheering for you! Heart 

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 17-07-2017 08:22 PM
It's gonna take a bit til I actually get there though. I don't know what to do until I have a new place to live @letitgo
 
 
 
 
 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 19-07-2017 10:06 AM

@redhead could you maybe stay with a friend or ask a friend to stay with you for a bit so you're not alone in the house, until you find a new place?

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 19-07-2017 11:37 AM
@letitgo I've been able to stay at my best mates. He's letting me stay until my cm get backs next week and we can work on a plan.
 
 
 
 
 
lokifish
lokifishPosted 21-07-2017 12:48 PM

@redhead I just wanted to chime in and say that I'm also truly impressed at the insight here, even when things are tough Heart let us know how the discussions with your case manager go when they're back 🙂

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 24-07-2017 08:52 PM
I spoke to my cm today and we had a good talk about this. She's is going to arrange for me to look at the supported accommodation options in town and we will decide the best options from there.
My mate is happy for me to stay a bit longer thankfully.
 
 
 
 
 
lokifish
lokifishPosted 27-07-2017 09:56 AM

@redhead Awesome 🙂 all the best for Monday then!

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 28-07-2017 07:47 PM
I hate not having my own place. My best mate is getting sick of me being here.

Though good news. I have a friend who is going to take over my lease.
 
 
 
 
 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 31-07-2017 08:24 PM

ooooh, glad you looked at a place today @redhead, I have my fingers crossed for you! 

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 01-08-2017 03:09 PM
I put an application in for the place this morning. Here's hoping I get accepted because I can't really live with my best mate much longer..
 
 
 
 
 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 03-08-2017 08:58 AM

Yay @redhead, well done for putting in the application!! Have you heard back about it?

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 03-08-2017 09:05 AM
@letitgo I probably won't hear back for a week or two
 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 14-08-2017 04:37 PM
I didnt get the room 😞 I don't have anywhere to go
 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 14-08-2017 06:46 PM
I'm really scared I'm going to go back on the streets. I'm getting discharged tomorrow
 
 
 
 
 
letitgo
letitgoPosted 14-08-2017 07:16 PM

Ah, that sucks so much @redhead Smiley Sad

Can you go back to your best mates place, temporarily?

 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 14-08-2017 07:30 PM
No really, I've been there 4 weeks and it's getting too much for both of us. @letitgo
 
 
 
 
 
redhead
redheadPosted 26-07-2017 07:03 PM

My case manager has arranged for me to look at one of the places on Monday 

 
 
 
Ben-RO
Ben-ROPosted 17-07-2017 02:31 PM

Also i just remembered after i hit post that you didn't find Step up/Step down so good last time? Has that changed at all?

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