Thanks @Ngaio-RO maybe sometime I'll see that but I don't see that in myself right now, sometimes I do
My answer to that question is 100% NO!
But, I doubt that's enough. So, whenever you start noticing yourself telling yourself things like that or asking that question, ask this question instead:
"Do my siblings deserve what happened to them?"
Do they?
The idea is to illustrate how easily you give understanding and compassion to others and how reluctant you are to give it to yourself.
Just like you would never, ever hold your siblings responsible for what they survived, nor should you blame yourself.
It happened TO you not BECAUSE of you.
You know that no matter what your siblings have been through that it never touches who they really are. That they are still special, wonderful young people that have so much to offer the world.
You're no different.
And @j95 that oversized font and me accidentally repeating that last question made it seem like I was yelling.
Sorry dude. I'm saying all this quietly.
I just know how much you love your siblings and I know how deserving you are of some of that love too.
The only reason I suggest giving it a go is that I think you're finding that hating yourself doesn't get you there.
If it did then there'd be no reason to change but, and I know this from personal experience, hating yourself actually doesn't help you achieve anything at all.
Is that true for you?
This is usually the place where you start to slam yourself until you're really upset. @j95
What if, instead, you pull yourself up at this point and reaffirm your commitment to being kinder to yourself and letting thibgs go and reframe things so it becomes
"I didn't go today but that's ok because I have a chance to go next time."
What might happen if you tried that instead?
okay @j95, if you learn best through pictures etc. could you try studying the content in that form? Or maybe asking the teachers if they'd be willing to use a more visual/picture-based teaching style?
You can do this!!!
I like Kale chips, but not Broccoli chips... although technically Broccoli and Kale are the same plant lol.
Pretty done with this place though
That's fair enough at the moment @j95 we've got to work on this a bit more i think.
How was this morning? What'd you get up to?
