Yep, school is the worst when you feel like it doesn't make sense. And a lot of the time, they're not great at helping people find a way to have it make sense but having gone through some pretty shit years in school and tertiary study I know this,
all the feelings I had about school related to how I felt about myself.
all of them.
school is hard because you're hard on you @j95 I think it might feel like it's the other way around right? Like you're hard on yourself because you find school hard ("I'm dumb") but I don't think that's true.
I think you find school hard because you don't cut yourself any slack.
does that sound like it might be true?
If it does, one way of starting to really commit to the "Be gentle on myself" commitment you made could be, to go to school tomorrow and make a promise to yourself you won't say a single mean thing to yourself all day. That if you don't understand something you'll just right it on a list to discuss later. Then congratulate yourself for sticking to your plan and move on to the next thing.
What do you think?
Is that the same thing where you study @j95
I'm so sorry, my memory is terrible and I'm way too lazy to re-read through previous posts so I apologise if I'm dragging you through old ground but...
there should be a student support officer of some sort at your school. These aren't so much tutors as they are school counsellors which sounds crappy but my experience has been that one of the things they do REALLY well is to help you work through lists like the one you made above.
They should arrange additional support if you find the content too difficult and help you with extensions on your work when needed and
help you with extensions on your work when needed and
talk to you about managing your stress and your workload etc
Basically, their goal is to support you to make it to the end of your studies, as best they can.
Is there someone like that there?
That's a good start. So what's making it hard? Write a big list and then look at it, are there patterns, is there anything you can see an answer to on the list?
- I can concentrate in class
- Sometimes it's too fast, I can't read the things in time or I can't follow it
- I don't really have any friends, so during breaks I just sit by myself
- it's not the way I learn
- I get behind because I can't do any of the work at home
- We have to do things with other people which I usually don't mind but it's really hard when you're in a group and you know nothing
That's my list @Ben-RO
The only pattern I can see is not being able to do the work. I don't know what the answers would be because they can't change it all just for me.
@j95 Sorry, I can't remember if you managed to speak to the student support person yet.
Did you have any luck there?
when my boss or someone shows me something at work I know how to do, put me in a class room and I have no idea.
Do you mean things like breathing excersises? I know a few I could do
Fucking hell i have trade school tomorrow and I'm not doing this again. I dread going, every single week, it makes me feel so dumb. Nothing is really working for me, at all, I don't know anything.
This is a gentle challenge to think about the first steps to decide what to do with us 🙂
Last week I started seeing my tutor, but he's away this week. im such an idiot i dont want to go to trade school
I just can't fucking do trade school anymore every single week I'm reminded of how fucking dumb I am and I can't do this I've absolutely had it and i don't want to be here anymore
@j95 okay, zero percent fun then.... What're the bits about it that set you off? Like what makes you feel dumb? I know you have mentioned the doing reading in a class or exercises on your own is part of it?
Seems like there's a pattern of trade school getting you pretty wound up @j95, not good.
What can you do right now to try and calm yourself down?
