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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:27 PM
@sunflowers5 I think positive self-talk is the main way to overcome regrets. 🙂My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:30 PM
@stonepixie I agree, but rather than 'positive' self-talk, I use 'honest' self-talk. I prefer to deal with regrets objectively, because sometimes I should feel guilty and need to own what I've done
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:21 PM
7. What are some healthy ways to cope and move on from regrets?
There are lots of ways to deal with regrets depending on the situation.
If you think you've hurt someone apologise and try to make up for it.
If you regret missing a great opportunity use that to encourage yourself to get out there more and take more opportunities.
If you regret doing something learn from it and if needed don't do it again or try to approach the situation differently the next time.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:10 PM
Something to regret would be different for each person because people hold different things in value. One would regret a social thing while another wouldn't because they don't hold social in the same way.Even if you constantly regret little things, so long as you can move past, accept, forgive yourself, whatever you need to do, then it's okay. Not to let yourself be bogged down by regrets is important.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:14 PM
@N1ghtW1ng I agree, most regrets do operate on an individual basis - however I think moral-based regrets are fairly universal
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:08 PM
@tsnyder I do. I think about things I could of done differently to give myself better relationships with my brother (and sis). We didn't always hate each other but I'm sorry to say I can't remember the times before, now we occassionally have moments of calm but... I move past because I know I try, even if my efforts go unnoticed.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:07 PM
Along the same line, what do you think should cause a regret? If I am constantly regretting many different things, what should I do?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:05 PM
@stonepixie perfect tie-in :D:DAnd I agree with all of you! Regrets are nasty things when you can't move on or past them.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:07 PM
@N1ghtW1ing I couldn't help myself. It had to be said.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:01 PM
Regrets become unhealthy when you dwell on them for a long time and they start to negatively affect the future decisions you make- Mark as New
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:00 PM
Regrets become unhealthy when you dwell on them constantly and do nothing to change them, either by learning or forgiving.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:04 PM
@N1ghtW1ng that's an really great point! Some people after a major regret feel it is extremely hard to forgive themselves.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:01 PM
@N1ghtW1ng I completely agree - when we begin to ruminate on regrets we can get bogged down
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:04 PM
When do regrets become unhealthy?
In my opinion, regrets become unhealthy when we begin to feel guilty for things when we shouldn't. For example, when I was younger, I regretted not making the NBA. However, this is not a reasonable regret! I did my best and didn't actually do anything immoral.
Does anyone else experience something similar?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:11 PM
like it the blog post I initially regretted doing drama. I was close to being on tv but got rejected and that rejection made me leave drama.
funny thing is now i sorta regret not pushing even harder when that happened. Now i want to get back into it but i'm not as skilled as i was before. funny how regrets work don't they?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:03 PM
Hey guys. I fell asleep, but I regret nothing! Hahaha. How has the chat been so far?My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:08 PM
I always have those 'small' regrets but they are much easier to get over after you realise that the guilt for that event is irrational.
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:11 PM
A great rule of thumb --- think about what you would tell a friend in a similar situation
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:18 PM
I think the biggest regret I've ever had was not telling my best friend that I liked him as more than just a friend. I regretted this for a while, but now I don't.My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:21 PM
@stonepixie did you have to consciously tell yourself or do things to get over that event?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:19 PM
@stonepixie I hear you, why didn't you tell him? And did you learn anything from it?
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:14 PM
For me, especially when it comes to social situations, the best way I deal with my anxiety before I even decide whether I am going or not, I ask myself, 'Will I regret this later if I don't go?'My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 25-05-2015 9:17 PM
@stonepixie that's a really good idea, using hindsight can definitely help. I have been guilty of over-thinking social situations before! Or in the case of the reachout training weekend - underthinking!
